Do you ever wonder, when you meet an individual, the reason why you met them? It is estimated that we interact with about 80,000 people in a lifetime and form an average of 396 personal relationships. However, only 33 (one in 12) of those encounters will stand the test of time. And only one in five of those encounters - approximately half a dozen people - are classified to be close relationship while the rest are 'social’. Either way, you should still consider the following factors when dealing with people.
Straightforwardness is a sign of respect; always be upfront with someone if you have a serious problem with them. Find the person and confront them. Make sure you confront them in a calm manner because the message will be more effective. In addition to correcting the issue, you should expect the same type of respect back, especially if you are always telling the individual what they need to hear (not just what they want to hear). It will show your willingness to work things out. If you're too apprehensive to do so, simply keep the comment to yourself.
Lengthy conversations are not always necessary. You should never automatically assume they don’t care or dislike you. It may just be that they have a lot going on or are exhausted. Consider their perspective prior to making assumptions. At the end of day actions matter; if they went way out of their way for you or performed a nice gesture, that explains it all. In fact, psychologically humans permanently remember what a person did and how they made us feel while our brains suppress what was said, so the words in conversation are disposable.
Some people are in your life for reasons, while others are only for seasons. You could know someone for days or many years. Time will not and does not matter because the moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the time to utterly walk away. Stay true to you! Of course, you should be nice to everyone and always say “Hi, how are you doing?” However, if they hurt you or you feel that you don’t agree with what they are doing, do not feel pressured to stick around. Fulfillment in that type of situation will never be reached, and by carrying on with that relationship, you are placing a bandage over the heart to heal impending wounds. Some relationships naturally phase out either due to timing or difference in ideologies. While the memories will always last, it is perhaps best that it did not work out.
While people have many peculiar habits, some of their biggest idiosyncrasies make them who they are. Instead of just complaining about it or judging them for it, figure out the reason behind it or ask them. Everyone is strange, there is no two alike, nor should you compare one person to another. A person is an individual; there is going to be no one else like them. Accept them for who they are, not who you want them to be or how you want them to act around you.
