You've had your first heart break, arguably the worst, most painful thing you can possibly go through in your adolescent years. You are torn to shreds, bitter, hopeless, and inconsolably sad for a LONG time. Slowly but surely you realize that nobody wants to be around somebody who is miserable all the time. Not even your best friends, who were there with you when you started dating and still there crying in bed with you when it all came crashing down. It gets old fast. Somehow you move on and you figure out how to function again. A lot of things happen once you finally fall out of love with your first love.
1.You finally realize all the little things that didn't make your relationship work.
Whether they didn't laugh at your jokes or they never wanted you around their friends. You know deep down it bothered you, your whole relationship but you would never admit it to yourself because you were blinded by it all because you were in love.
2. You start to do more for yourself.
At one point you thought the relationship you were in was absolutely perfect. But you realize after you fall out of love that most of the things you were doing in the relationship was for you S.O. and not for yourself. You'll probably realize this in the middle of a cake decorating class that you went to by yourself that you never would have thought you'd have time for before.
3.You STOP looking at their social network
God knows you deleted them off every social media outlet there is within a month after the break up, but God ALSO knows that you continuously stalked every one of their social media outlets for months. I've done it, my friends have done it, we've all done it. Nothing to be ashamed of, but once you fall out of love with them you stop all together, one day it just happens and you don't care anymore.
4. You stop looking at the things you have done wrong and realize what they have done wrong
When you're in love, you don't realize what your S.O. is doing wrong. You blame everything on yourself because you are young and in love. In your mind, they can't do anything wrong. But once you fall out of love you see it all in screaming color (out of context Taylor swift reference) every little thing they ever did stands out so vividly in your mind.
5. You'll go days without thinking about them.
After the break up they were on your mind 24/7. Even when you thought you could escape it with sleep, nope they’re bombarding your dreams too. Once you stop loving them you don’t think about them, and you definitely don’t think about getting back together all the time, don’t lie, you know you made up a million scenarios in your head. But once you fall out of love you stop it all, every once in a while they cross your mind but more like a good memory, not a pining need for them.
6. You'll absolutely forget what it is like to be in love with someone
You will go back and look at pictures from your happiest days and you will forget what it is like. The next time you fall in love it will all seem new and fresh and not completely stained by a last love. Once you fall out of love and forget what it feels like it feel so strongly towards someone it makes the next time you fall in love seem just as magical if not more.
7. You'll stop wishing you could take it all back and be happy with the memories that you made.
When you first break up you keep replaying all the memories of the good times you had wishing that you had never made them because now all they do is make you sad that they are over. Once you are over the relationship, you start to look back on all the fun times and it makes you smile that you shared such good memories with a pretty awesome person.
