In life, change is inevitable, especially when it comes to people who are in your life. Some will stay in your life for longer than others, but I am a firm believer that people don’t leave your life until you’ve learned a lesson from them or the relationship that you both shared. With that being said, this goes out to the people who have walked out of my life and how it actually affected me.

For most of life, my self-confidence and self-worth haven’t been the greatest. When I met someone for the first time, I was so afraid that they wouldn’t like me for one reason or another because I knew how important first impressions were. If I saw someone look at me then immediately turn to their friend, I automatically assumed that they were talking about me. I always felt like I wasn’t good enough and that I never would be. I didn’t think that I was worth having has a friend, girlfriend, or even daughter because I thought that I didn’t have that much to offer. When someone new came into my life, I valued that relationship so much because it made me feel like I actually mattered to someone.

Over the years, I have lost friendships and romantic relationships like most people do as they grow up, but those losses hit me harder than normal. Even if the other person was the obvious reason why the relationship ended, I always put the blame on myself. The more I have grown up and the more relationships that I have lost, I realized that all along it wasn’t me, it was them. I started to see that when people treated me disrespectfully, it was their wrong doing, not mine. I’m sure that the people who treated me badly or had stupid reasons as to why they were ending our relationship thought that it would bring me down, but in reality, it had the complete opposite effect.

So, to the people who walked out on me, thank you. Thank you for helping me realize that I am worth someone’s time and effort. Thank you for showing me how I should actually be treated by someone who cares about me. Thank you for helping me to see that I am good enough, and if someone thinks that I’m not, then they aren’t good enough for me. Thank you for showing me that every person you lose, isn’t always a loss. Because of you, I finally found the self-worth that I had been missing for years, and I felt the self-confidence that I desperately needed. Yes, there are days that I wish you were still in my life, but you leaving brought me so many more good things than bad. I still wish you the best and hope that life is treating you well, but I am happy that I wasn’t good enough for you because it made me realize that I am good enough for me.