Rejection is the worst. There’s no sugar coating this one, no matter how hard I try. Rejection is one of those things you can never escape, regardless of how hard you try. It’s also one of the hardest things to deal with. You have to come to terms with the fact that someone doesn’t want you in their life anymore or something you hoped for isn’t going to pan out how you expected.

With each new rejection, you can feel yourself slowly spiraling out of control. That feeling is probably one of the most terrifying and helpless feelings in the world, like you’re just waiting for people to decide your future. You begin to feel like you don’t have an ounce of influence into how your future turns out.

Here’s some food for thought though, is it the rejection that hurts the most or is it the loss of the great expectation you once had? Think about it. You spent so much time investing in this false reality, and when the final verdict is in, it’s hard to let go of that world you imagined for so long.

I’m slowly realizing that it’s not about who or what rejects you, but it’s about what you do with that rejection. Are you going to just curl in your blanket cocoon and think “oh woe is me…” or are you going to take all of that emotion inside of you and channel it into something great.

If you’re anything like me, some of your best work comes when people doubt you and tell you that you can’t do something. That rejection sparks something inside of you that is very hard to describe. I’m sure you all know the feeling that I’m talking about.

Even in a twisted sort of way, rejection has the ability to teach you things about yourself that you never even thought were inside. Rejection teaches you how to reach deep down inside of yourself and find that last shred of hope you have left. It teaches you to have the courage to move forward, even when your legs are shaking too much to take the next step.

To everyone who has ever rejected me, thank you:

Your rejection taught me to love my life more.

Your rejection taught me about my strength.

Your rejection taught me to never settle.

Your rejection taught me who I should surround myself with.

Your rejection taught me about the person I strive to become every day.

Your rejection pushed me closer to where I'm supposed to be.

One of the things I have to continually remind myself is that the reason I was rejected may have nothing to do with me. There could be a lot of other factors coming into play into how the future turns out, but I think it is human nature to blame ourselves when something doesn’t go our way. We wonder what we could have done or said that could have changed the outcome.

Our mind, actions and intentions are some of the things that we can truly understand; no one else can truly know what our soul is like. Unfortunately some people are so fixated on their personal gain that they are unable to truly see what you have to offer. They only see what they choose to see. And darling, you can’t control that no matter how hard you try. But maybe you’re better off without them. If they only chose to acknowledge your shortcomings and less than perfect qualities, you’re not worthy of them.

Wait for the people who see your worth. That’s the thing that matters most in life. These people will propel you forward into something great. Even if you fail one, ten or a hundred times, those will be the people who will be there for you each and every time to help pick you up and dust off your hands and knees.

You shouldn’t have to prove yourself to anyone, regardless if it’s your family, friends, boss, co-worker, significant other or that random person on the street. If you start to do that, you’ll start to lose sight of yourself. You start to become the version of you that everyone expects, not the true version of you. Your worth will never be based on the world’s acceptance of you; your worth is based on what’s inside of you. It’s the reason you get up in the morning; it’s the things you love and are passionate about.