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Learning To Say "No" To Your Inner Critic

When you become negative, how do you banish doubt and gain confidence?

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Learning To Say "No" To Your Inner Critic
David Marcu

As much as we always want to be confident in ourselves and our futures, sometimes we convince ourselves that we aren’t enough, or we doubt ourselves and worry. We can lose sight of what really matters. How do we say "No" to our inner critic?

We are each unique, and we do not need to doubt ourselves. Sound familiar?

Often the people closest to us assure and encourage us.

They see the best in us. Sometimes, we think they say kind words only because they don’t want to see us upset or they are blind to our faults. Trust me, if they love you, they will also show you where you are wrong.

Other times, they give tough love, and it can be difficult to hear and digest. When those closest to us see our potential, they may challenge and push us.

This past summer, I was worried about my future as a dancer. I used to dance every day before college, and it struck me hard that that chapter may one day close.

My mom said to me, “Why are you worrying? Look, you do have opportunities to dance right in front of you. They just may not be what you’ve imagined. Sometimes there is a death to a dream, and other times a dream may shift and morph into a new dream.”

I prayed a lot and sought God's wisdom and direction. I am still praying and seeking God. God's timing is perfect, and I know He has placed a passion for dance in my heart for a reason.

When we choose to see what is true and good, we are less inclined to become self-critical or worry.

This past week, I was worried about what classes I need to take for my major. I didn't feel at peace, and I was stressed.

Still, I have nothing to worry. My circumstances may not be perfect, but if I focus on pursuing the positive in the situation, I do not need to worry about the negative. If I gain perspective, I can also have faith.

We do not need to become stressed and burdened over what we can't control. Instead, we can focus on what gives us joy and seek those opportunities in even the most difficult situations.

Lastly, we must be kinder to ourselves. We are unique, and we are smarter than we think.

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