Here are a few Ted Talks that I have helped me spark change in my life. I hope that you can apply them to yours as well. Be open to change. We are always changing for the better in life. Keep going forward.
The Power of Vulnerability
Brene Brown's Ted Talk called The Power of Vulnerability focuses on the quote "If you can't measure it, it doesn't exist." When ask people about love they often respond with stories about heartbreak. When you ask about connection they respond with stories of disconnection. In order for connection to happen we have to be seen to be really seen and to be seen we must have:
- Courage to be imperfectly perfect.
- Compassion to treat yourself kindly and with respect.
- Connection- as a result of authenticity. Let go of what they "should be" to be who you are.
- Vulnerability should be fully embraced. What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful. The willingness to say "I love you first" the willingness to do something where there are no guarantees, the willingness to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out...
The simple cure for loneliness
Baya Voce's Ted Talk "The simple cure for loneliness" centers around the "anchor of connection" which is human contact. With the growing use of technology, face-to-face conversation and connection has taken the back burner. Too often we see people out at restaurants all on their phones. And yet we wonder why we are lonely.
Select the right relationship
When selecting the right relationship this Ted Talk by Alexandra Redcay helps us realize that love rules our mind just like a drug addiction. Why are we constantly trying to change people? There are so many opportunities out there to explore. Do we think we should settle or not good enough? Know your self worth and make sure your partner does too. Know what you want in a partner and be stubborn about the things that are important to you.
How to stop screwing yourself over
How can you stop screwing yourself over? It's simple, (but not easy): Force yourself. The word "fine" is something we use to cover up the regret and loss in our lives. Mel Robbins has three rules on how to stop screwing yourself over and to take risks:
- Out of your head
- Past your feelings
- Outside your comfort zone
Trust your struggle
Zain Asher says in her Ted Talk, Trust your struggle, "If you want to be successful you have to relate to all people." "No matter what the hardships are in life have faith that it will all be for the greater good" Three ways to trust your struggle:
- No such thing as competition- brings out fears and insecurities that hold you back
- Create what you want
- The more you give the more you receive
Self-love, be intentional
Caitlyn Roux talks about how self love impacts not only your life but the lives around you.
"Without self-love you limit the love you can give and the value you can add to others' lives."
"Living the best version of yourself inspires others to live the best version of themselves too."
The Power of Zero Tolerance
Sabelle Mercier expresses how worry holds us back in the talk The Power of Zero Tolerance.
"95% of North Americans either go to bed or wake up worrying about something"
#1 killer of creativity, performance, and dreams- WORRY
"What we tolerate we worry about"
"What do you need to do on a daily basis to feel happy, healthy, and fulfilled instead of being worried? And most importantly what the heck are you tolerating that is keeping you from doing it?"
Be your own hero a formula to remember:
H- Hush
E- Evaluate
R-Ritualize
O-Own
Become who you really are
Andrea Pennington says in her talk, Become who you really are, that "the socialization process shapes our sense of identity."This stems from ideals of parents and peers to fit in and be accepted in society.The authentic and genuine self takes a back seat to what appears to be socially accepted. Denying self-expression leads to depression. Some quotes that she discusses during her talk are:
"Often we don't realize who we're meant to be because we're so busy trying to live out someone else's ideas"-Oprah Winfrey
"No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it"-Albert Einstein
"If you're always trying to be normal, you'll never know how amazing you can be"- Maya Angelou
"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are" -EE Cummings
"Be the change you wish to see in the world"- Mohammad Ghandi
"Be yourself. An original is always worth more than a copy."
Programming your mind for success
Carrie Green talks about three things that are barriers to programming your mind for success
1. Fear
2. Obstacles
3. Lack of Motivation
Be consciously aware of what you are thinking. We all have the power over our thoughts so replace the negative with positive self-talk. Empower yourself.
What makes you special?
Mariana Atencio in her talk, What makes you special?, claims that we are all special and that we need to embrace it by:
- I am different...Belonging takes work
- Being different is an advantage
