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Come To Find Out, Talking About Your Feelings Is Actually Really Helpful

Nothing is perfect, but it helps to talk about it.

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Come To Find Out, Talking About Your Feelings Is Actually Really Helpful
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Coming into college, I didn't have any experience talking out problems with friends. I was afraid of things being different between us after that. I became used to keeping the problems inside and just eventually forgetting about them. That is, until the next time an incident occurred in which those past feelings combined with the current feelings to create an ugly concoction of turmoil instead.

Somehow I managed to survive high school like that and then I "ran away" by going to a college that nobody else from my high school was going to.

I felt that since I was starting fresh here, things would be different. I don't know if I thought that I would be different or if I had some fantasy that my friendships in college would be "perfect." Thinking about it now, I realize that nothing is perfect. If I could tell my past self one thing, it would be that there will be problems in every friendship and relationship but it's up to you and the other person on whether you both can get through them.

My freshman year of college was when I experienced the most emotional change. I never had someone tell me that I should want things to be different because that means the other person cares and would purposefully be more careful to not do/say that specific thing I talked to them about. I was reminded that not everyone will react the way I think they'll react.

Now, go on and write down your issues and your feelings. Think about how you want to word it when you talk to your person. Next, tell that person you want to talk to them and find a time that works for both of you. All that's left now is to believe in the other person and think of yourself as someone who deserves healthy friendships/relationships.

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