I'm not a high maintenance girlfriend. I don't require large gifts, extravagant dates, or really anything that out of the ordinary in the bedroom. I like to keep things relaxed, fun, and full of love. Something that I do require? Daily communication. Talking with my partner (or potential partners) every single day is so important to me. Whether it's just texting back and forth throughout the day with a silly Snapchat here and there or a full-on two hour FaceTime call before I go to bed, I need my daily check-ins. If my potential partners can't seem to do this, they're getting cut. I know that I deserve so much better than them.
My mind races when people don't talk to me. If my Snapchats are constantly left open, my texts left on read, and my phone calls unreturned I assume that I've done something wrong. It's my own self-doubt and racing mind to blame. This is why I reply to texts within .5 seconds and why I'm always willing to talk with my friends and partners when they need it. It's what I want from them, so why wouldn't I give back?
Although I think that daily communication is one of the easiest things someone can do, I'd be lying if I said it was easy for me to find this. Nearly every person I've ever dated, whether casually or more committed, seems to find talking every day to be a chore. To me, that seems like a lack of love. Our conversations don't have to be anything intense. Just send me a few memes and tell me about how annoying work was. It'll make me happy just to know you're here and you're willing to talk to me.
It takes less than thirty seconds to send a text or Snapchat. Even if it's just to tell me that you're super busy and will talk to me when you get the chance, it's still better than leaving me in the dark.
Relationships aren't built off of sexual compatibility, the fun things you do together, or gifts you buy for each other. The foundation of any healthy relationship is communication. Finding someone willing to talk to you every day should not be a challenge, and if someone can't give that to you, you should keep searching until you find someone who can. It's the respect you deserve.
