There have been so many times where I have felt disconnected from life.

It’s like I’m here physically, but mentally, I’m gone.

I feel like this is a normal response to have after having gone through change. You’re in the middle of trying to figure things out and it seems as if once you’ve found your answer, there’s another thing that comes your way. You just can’t catch a break.

The hardest thing to hear from someone is to “move on.” My response back to that is easier said than done. It’s a whole other story for the person being told to “move on” because they are living it. They’re feeling the suffocating emotional turmoils that life brings.

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Moving on does not always happen overnight. Sometimes it’s a long process that is capable of leaving a person feeling empty and completely lonely with the thought that nothing is truly ever going to get better.

Let me be the one to tell you it gets better.

Life is a battle in itself. Nowhere is it written that life was going to be easy. I have come to realize that a lot of bad things are going to happen, but that does not mean that they result in bad days or even a bad life. It’s all in your perception and your perspective.

You have every right to feel pessimistic, angry and hurt. You also have every right to feel optimistic, joyful and alive. You have the choice. You have control over your life. That means you choose how you feel. You choose how you respond to the obstacles that come your way. It’s your choice.

Challenge yourself to choose optimism, joy and life.

You have been blessed with a life that is worth living. Take every opportunity you can to make the most with what you have. Change your perspective. Broaden your horizons. Explore. Teach. Feel. Escape. Write. Do what you must in order to be the person you want and desire. You are the only person standing in your way. Only you control your happiness.

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Isn’t that the ultimate goal—happiness?

You have to think about what is it going to take to make you happy. If that means a fresh coat of paint, a vacation, investing in a novel, finding a new hobby or exercise—do it. You have to do things that make you happy, and you have to do them for yourself and no one else.

With that being said, you have to take the time to get to know yourself. Change is crazy in how it transforms a person for better or worse. Recognize the power you have to overcome the obstacles that come your way, and you’ll stay away from negative transformations.

Take back the control you have over your life because it’s not worth wallowing in your sorrows. You deserve every moment of happiness that comes your way. Don’t allow what has happened in your past control the greatness that is attached to your future.

Hang in there, little fighter. Good times are ahead.