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I Asked 10 Women About Having Sex For The First Time, And Their Advice Is V Important

"Don't be afraid to laugh! Sex doesn't always have to be so serious."

Hunter College

1981

I asked 10 women of all different ages to share their best advice about having sex for the first time, and here's what they had to say.

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Having sex for the first time can be a little intimidating, especially if you don't know what to expect. But you're not alone! Everyone has their first time, so I asked 10 women of all different ages to share their best advice about having sex for the first time, and here's what they had to say.

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Health and Wellness

Planned Parenthood Says Virginity Is Kinda Sorta Made Up, And Honestly, They're Right

Virginity is a social construct, but there are so many different layers to it.

University of Washington

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Planned Parenthood Says Virginity Is Kinda Sorta Made Up, And Honestly, They're Right

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As of lately, there have been some controversies around the hymen's purpose and whether that correlates with losing virginity or not (cough cough, looking at you T.I.).

So while this has been a new outlook on women's health, Planned Parenthood took some words on it to Twitter, notably that virginity — and sex as a whole — has nothing to do with a woman's hymen — and they're right.

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You Should Not Feel Forced To Have Sex, Ever

Will you wait for your soul mate? Or will you let loose? The choice is yours.

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You Should Not Feel Forced To Have Sex, Ever

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For some, the answer is simple. Sometimes, it's just the flip of the coin that'll decide. You can be cautious, you can be careless, but either way, you should not feel forced to make a decision.

In this modern age, there is a lot of pressure for young people to have sex. Sex always sells itself, and it is impossible to escape alluring images and sayings relating to this topic.

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Dear Fellas, Consistency & Communication Is All We Ask For

So, why aren't we getting the same?

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Dear Fellas, Consistency & Communication Is All We Ask For

Dear fellas (who fall under this category of course),

As you can tell from my title, it's time to talk about the problems with MOST guys in today's generation. This article isn't meant to bash all of you, but most of you need a reality check when it comes to. I'll start with this:

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My Parents Didn’t Tell Me To Stay Pure Until Marriage, I Made That Decision On My Own

So, please respect my decision.

Grand Canyon University

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My Parents Didn’t Tell Me To Stay Pure Until Marriage, I Made That Decision On My Own

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As we evolve into a more open and accepting world, the one thing that is getting less taboo is sex. It's not something that is talked about behind closed doors. It's something that is on the television screens and easily accessible on our phones. People talk about it and promote it like it's small talk. It's so hard to escape, especially as a young adult.

To say that I am staying pure until marriage is a very uncommon thing, at least in my opinion. Sure, I have friends who are in the same boat as I am. But, even at a Christian college, sex is everywhere and most people are partaking in it. However, I decided to not.

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11 Thoughts You Have While Losing Your Virginity

Oh my god, it's happening!

Rhode Island College

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Everyone has an idea of how they want the first time they have sex to be like. And while you might have this idea, and you might be prepared, you definitely aren't prepared for how awkward it can be. (Or for those awkward thoughts that are racing through your mind as it's happening.) So I surveyed former virgins about they were thinking about it when they had sex for the first time.

Here are all the thoughts they had when they lost their virginity:

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"Don't be afraid to laugh! Sex doesn't always have to be so serious."

1. "Focus on the other person, just watch them... it'll help you get out of your head." - Maria, 18

2. "Use lots of lube." -Daniella, 19

3. "I usually do some yoga before I know I'm going to be sexually active." - Nicole, 23

4. "Foreplay is so important!" - Maya, 22

5. "Let the other person worship you!" - Isabel, 33

6. "You don't have to bleed your first time." - Irina, 45

7. "Set a time and place, like when your parents aren't home for example." - Pamela, 17

8. "Have a sip of wine before, it helps you relax." - Dariya, 18

9. "Turn on some music." - Elizabeth, 23

10. "Don't be afraid to laugh! Sex doesn't always have to be so serious, it can be lighthearted and fun." - Emily, 24

Virginity is a social construct, but there are so many different layers to it.

And, the hymen heals itself, so let's just debunk the "popping the cherry" myth right now.

Will you wait for your soul mate? Or will you let loose? The choice is yours.

So, why aren't we getting the same?

So, please respect my decision.

I want to know that the man loves me.

I want to give all of me to one person.

The idea of getting pregnant scares me because of the lack of security.

There's no comparing, if you have only been with one person.

It brings me closer to God.

Oh my god, it's happening!

1. "Is it over yet?"

2. "I hope I'm doing OK."

3. "This is happening. This is happening."

4. "Well, this isn't what I expected. It's nothing like the movies."

5. "I hope it doesn't hurt—it hurts, when is this going to end."

6. "He's not going anywhere."

7. "She's amazing."

8. "This is happening fast."

9. "Do I really want this?"

10. "I don't want this to end."

11. "Will I look any different?"

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