1. Say their name when speaking to them
OKAY, obviously do not overdo it but speaking someone's name is a quick and easy way to foster their attention. Our bodies are trained to look in the direction our name is spoken. Even if we're already in a conversation hearing our name stimulates a need to pay closer attention to you, this then snowballs into paying more attention to you in general, into a potential crush.
When used correctly, it can produce chills. Plus, people who do this are often described as charismatic!
Another way to use this is by raising your hand to agree with someone in class. Try waiting for a few hands and then when your crush has forgotten what they have even said raise your hand and say "I agree with what X said because ...," this move will perk their attention back to the lesson and back to you and they'll remember you thought highly of what they said.
2. Play a little copy cat
This trick is solely based on mirroring—or as psychologists like to call it, the "chameleon effect."
People are drawn to people like them, whether is be looking similar, liking the same things, or even acting similarly. If you laugh at the same things, they may take notice or even sitting in the same position. So copy their body language, gestures, and facial expressions. If they cross their legs, cross yours. If they drink some water, drink some water also. The effects may be astounding.
3. Try wearing red
The color red is easily associated with a strong sexuality, positive energy, and taking action. Studies have discovered people are more likely to be drawn to people wearing that color. Who knew our crushes could be solely based on the color of someone's shirts. It's really starting to make me re-think some of the deadbeats I 'liked' in high school.
4. Play easy, then hard to get
Playing "hard to get" is an art, and let's be honest can be the downfall of a lot of flirtationships.
The trick is to begin with showing interest, ask them about themselves, maintain eye contact, laugh at their jokes.
If you don't, you risk looking standoffish and cold.
Then once you've created a pleasant bond and interaction, begin showing interest less and less. When you see them just wave hi or smile, but don't go out of your way to have a conversation and if they speak to you make it short and sweet and then say you have somewhere to be.
People value and desire what is rare and difficult to obtain, so make yourself difficult to obtain.
5. Tell a funny story
But make sure it's actually funny first. Comedians are just memorable, it's a fact and you'll be more likely remembered if you make them laugh. Humor eases negative thoughts and makes others feel more comfortable so try telling a funny story, maybe with a hint of vulnerability and you will increase their interest for sure.
6. Take it from the chick flicks, clumsiness works
It's true and you've probably seen it often depicted in movies…when a girl suddenly drops an armful of books and a handsome boy appears out of the blue to aid her.
We tend to offer aid when another person is observed alone under hardship. Try dropping a book or two, or even stumbling up some stairs close enough they can help you, smile, make eye contact, and thank them. This trick reveals that you aren't perfect makes you seem more relatable and vulnerable to others.
And makes for a perfect way to start up a conversation later by re-thanking them for all their help.
7. Adrenaline boost and chill?
When you participate in adrenaline-boosting activities, like riding roller coasters, with another person your bodies release endorphins that create a natural high. This natural high makes you feel all sorts of good things, all sorts of good things you displace on the person sitting next to you. So next time your crush gets on a roller coaster, make sure the person sitting next to them is you.
8. Be confident, or fake it till you make it
Having confidence is the key to attracting people and I know it's harder than it looks. My first tip, compliment yourself every morning, smile often, and compliment your friends and family every morning. It's simple, self-love, endorphins, and tribe love, just try it.
Having confidence makes you stand out. Now I am not saying self-conscious people are unworthy, their not. I'm plenty self-conscious but I have dug deep to find that I am most confident when I'm hype-ing up my best friends, when I am talking about animals, and when I am talking about travel. So, whenever I feel myself getting self-conscious I find a way to work my confidence boosters into when I am doing whether it be complimenting a friend or working animals or travel into the conversation.
Find your confidence boosters and pursue them and then people will naturally want to pursue you!
9. Compliment them!
This seems pretty basic, right? That's cause it is! Something even cooler though, people associate the adjectives you use to describe other people with your own personality! What?!
So if you describe someone as sweet and caring, they will associate you with these qualities as well. So if you describe them as these qualities they will not only be flattered but also like damn, you're sweet and caring too. What a win-win.
10. Coffee dates > Ice Cream Dates
Ok, so they've agreed to go on a date with you? Now, where to? It's weird but people may associate the temperature with the person they're spending time with.
Often, people that are cold, or holding cold things are more likely to perceive the people around them to have cold personalities and the experience to be just meh whereas people in relatively warm temperature and holding warmer drinks will perceive the personality of the person they're with to be warm and kind.
So, ditch the ice cream cones and go for a toasty date instead.
