The 5 Pros and Cons Of Long Distance Friendships
Being friends with someone thousands of miles away has its drawbacks and perks.
True friendship is incredibly rare, and to find a friend that will be there for you through all of life's curveballs is something quite unique. To add distance into the equation, maintaining a real, true friendship can be a struggle. There are good and bad parts that come with long distance friendship.
1. Pro: You have someone to tell all your secrets (and other people’s) to.
When your friend lives far away, you can tell them just about anything about anyone and they will just listen. You don't have to worry about them telling other people or repeating it because you guys are so far apart.
1. Con: You sometimes go a few weeks without talking.
Because life does get crazy at times, it can be difficult to stay in contact. Even though it is unintentional, you always feel bad when you see you never responded. Once you remember everything you have to tell them though, you immediately send them a long message.
2. Pro: You have a newfound appreciation for technology.
Without technology and apps like WhatsApp staying in contact with your friend would be next to impossible.
2. Con: The time difference makes phone calls or Skyping difficult.
When you have time to talk, chances are they are either busy or sleeping because of the time difference.
3. Pro: You get to go on vacation to meet up.
Whether they come to you, you go to them, or you both decide to meet up in some random place you get to have a vacation with your friend. There is nothing better than creating memories while traveling with one of your best friends.
3. Con: It’s expensive to see each other.
Yes, when you do see each other you are creating so many memories but traveling internationally to see each other is expensive and can't be done as frequently as wanted.
4. Pro: They help keep things in perspective.
It is so easy to get caught up on the small things in life, but when you message your friend who is away from all your chaos and they have their own, it helps you see that not everything is as big of a deal as it seems.
4. Con: It is easy to get jealous of the friends they have that live near them.
You always see the pictures of them out with their other friends, and you have serious FOMO by not being there.
5. Pro: You share a special bond with that person that not every friendship has.
Because you have to make an effort to keep in contact this friendship has an added layer of authenticity to it. You both take time out of your lives to message one another when a friend you have who lives five minutes away might not do.
5. Con: You miss out on being there for big and small life events.
For example, chances are you rarely if ever get to spend birthdays together or attend each other's graduation.
Overall, the good always outweighs the bad which makes for a lasting, special friendship.
This Is Your Life, Why Care About Others Gossiping?
Don't you get tired of the fake rumors around you?
We are living in a society where people like to judge each other. Some people have a good intention, but some have the purpose of drowning others to lift themselves up. In the midst of this life, you only live your life and don't mind too much about the comments, judgments, and hatreds.
When it comes to love, you often get words like: "Why do you love that person?" "How can you date someone like that?" or "Do you have enough people to love?"
In fact, the choice is always yours, you can have a right or wrong relationship, this is not foreseeable. So, if you have a strong and firm feeling on someone, just do it even if people say something. As long as you feel happy, that person sincerely treats you, you wholeheartedly love him or her, and your love has no effect on social morals, it's totally fine.
Ignore all the gossips and don't let it affect your feelings.
This does not mean that you love blindly or without reason, but that you believe in the love you have chosen. Even if the relationship ended up badly later, do not be sad or regretful that in the past you did not listen to everyone, because at least you were happy with your life, at that moment.
Not just love, it is easy for someone to judge you, from every aspect of life. It can be your studying, the way you live, your personality, your voice, your appearance... But all that rumors or judgments cannot tell who you really are.
There is more than one tattoo on your body, you might have a strong personality, and this is fine. It doesn't mean that you are a naughty, careless, and fearful person. Each tattoo for each person has a different meaning. Because you do not understand the meaning of the tattoo, don't evaluate that person to be swearing. My roommate has three tattoos of the birthday of her father, her mother and her brother, as she is an international student and she is always far from home. Those tattoos are important to her, and I can tell what a lovely girl she is.
Each person has a different perspective, a way of life, a style, so don't impose your personal thoughts on a completely different person.
In this life, you just need to be yourself, do the things you like and don't need to be afraid or worry about the gossips and comments around. We can do what we love, as long as it doesn't affect the people around us. Know how to choose the right advice to improve and ignore the comments that are only meant to offend, your life will become much more fun, comfortable and simple.