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Roommates 101

How to make the best of your rooming situation - regardless of whether or not you like your roommate.

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Roommates 101
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I'm sure many of you, as have I, have gotten your roommate assignments or are getting them soon. Some of you probably picked your roommates and have already met them. Others were forced to have their roommates randomly selected. That's not always bad. Sometimes you get a roommate that you get along great with from the start, other times you are paired up with the first person you end up hating on campus. Here's an article that will help you navigate any rooming situation.

This is broken up into 3 sections: Dos and Don'ts To Living With Another Person, 5 Ways To Make It Work With Any Roommate and 25 Questions To Ask Your Roommate That Weren't On The Housing Survey (But Should Have Been.)

Dos and Don'ts To Living With Another Person

Don't Facebook stalk your roommate and use your findings to prejudge them. I know, it might be tempting to dig through their Facebook and find out as much about them as possible, but social media can be deceiving. Instead take the time to speak/text/email/Skype with them before move in day.

Do plan to talk face to face with your roommate before reaching campus. If you're lucky enough to live some what close to your roommate (two hours and under) like I am, make plans to meet up in person. You can either meet up at a specific place mid way in between you two or plan to hang out once at each other's houses. If you don't live close to your roommate that's OK. Organize Skype calls so that you can get to know them. It's hard to perceive tone and personality through text so it's always better to do it face to face.

Don't expect you and your roommate to become instant best friends. You don't always mesh well with your roommate, and that's OK. That being said, don't expect the two of you to be sister tight. It's great if it happens and a lot of times it does happen, but if it doesn't and you expected it to, that'll just cause more discord between the two of you.

Do be open to their interests and hobbies. Say you find your roommates Facebook page and all they seem to be into is metal music, Bernie Sanders Memes and dog videos, but you're into pop, a Republican and like cats and not dogs. It's all right. Maybe you'll find common ground in a sport or you'll actually like some of the music they play for you.

Don't be afraid to establish boundaries. This is key, regardless of the relationship you have with your roommate. Establishing boundaries is key to preventing fights later on. It's better to tell your roommate now that you don't want to share food, instead of yelling at them later on because they ate the last Kraft Mac and Cheese (although rule of thumb, if the food isn't yours, don't eat the last of it, unless you can replace it right away).

Do compromise. Compromise is key too. You like studying with absolutely no sound from 8-10 but your roommate wants to watch a show at that time? Compromise: You can study with your headphones in and they'll turn the TV low. You like getting up early in the morning with an alarm but your roommate hates being up before 12? Meet somewhere in the middle, or use a silent alarm such as a vibrate setting on your phone, or putting your ringer on low and tucking it under your pillow. Little things like this will help the year go by smoothly.

5 Ways to Make It Work With Any Roommate

1. Compromise. I kind of sound like a broken record at this point, but compromise is crucial. This will help you get what you want and give your roommate what they want too.

2. Communicate. If you communicate everything up front, such as all your habits and quirks, your roommate won't have much fuel for a fight.

3. Respect Each Other. Please respect each other's space. If you guys don't get along well, maybe designate a side of the room to each of you, that way you can avoid fights over who ate the last yogurt, or avoid accusations of who stole who's clothing.

4. Find Other People. If you find friends in your classes or through clubs, you'll definitely be in your room less. Sometimes that means going to the library to study in a group, or hanging out in the dining hall.

5. Talk to Your RA. This is what RA's are for, they'll be able to offer situation specific advice and worse case scenario, they'll help you move rooms if necessary.

25 Questions To Ask Your Roommate That Weren't On The Housing Survey (But Should Have Been)

Here's a great way to get to know any roommate and figure out just how compatible the two of you really are.

1. "Do you snore?"

2. "What type of music do you like to listen to? Do you like playing your music on speakers, or are you a headphones person?"

3. "Do you plan on spending a lot of time in the room?"

4. "Are you a partier or do you like staying in?"

5. "Do you plan on having a lot of friends over?"

6. "Are you a morning or night person?"

7. "What time do you normally get up/go to bed?"

8. "Are you an athlete or do you plan on joining a collegiate team?"

9. "Do you plan on joining clubs? If so, what clubs?"

10. "Do you have any allergies?"

11. "Are you bringing a car to campus?"

12. "What are your study habits?"

13. "Do you wear a lot of perfume or use strong air fresheners?"

14. "Would you be interested in setting some time aside each week for us to bond as roommates?" (This can be in the form of dinner, plans for a movie, game nights or just sitting and talking with each other.)

15. "Do you have any TV Shows/Sporting Events that you regularly watch?"

16. "Do you plan on having anyone (family, friends from home, significant others, etc.) stay the night in the room?"

17. "Are you a clean freak, super messy or somewhere in between?"

18. "Will you be bringing a fish?"

19. "If I'm awake and you're not up, and I know you have class within a half hour, do you want me to wake you up?"

20. "If you're going out for the night, what time do you plan to come back?"

21. "Do you plan on bringing big appliances (i.e. mini fridge, microwave, TV, DVD player, video game systems, etc.)?"

22. "Have you ever had a roommate? If so, what was your experience like?"

23. "Are there any topics that are off limits when getting to know each other?"

24. "How do you want to split costs when it comes to things for the room (i.e. food, toiletries, etc.)?"

25. "How do you feel about freely sharing things (i.e. food, clothes, makeup, toiletries, school supplies, laundry items, etc.)?"

I hope this guide will help the year with your roommate go smoothly.

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