If there's one thing that hurts my heart the most, it's when relationships and friendships that mean so much to you fall apart for what seems like no reason at all. When the friendship you've had since Kindergarten fizzles out during your Senior year of High School-- yeah that hurts and it's confusing.
But to me, what's even more confusing is why it's so hard to find a relationship, friendly or romantic, that can honestly withstand the tests of time, disagreements, and distance. If we're being honest, I have one friend who I can say has been significant in my life for more than 5 years. But if I were to try to count the amount of people I've been close to in the past 5 years, I wouldn't even be able to. Ask me where any of those people are today and I'd have no clue.
But, why? Aren't we intended and created for relationships?
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Originally, in the beginning, our hearts are filled with this "love" that is selfish, dirty and worldly. We try to love someone and it just doesn't work. It doesn't feel right; it feels forced and superficial. We get frustrated and question why our relationships aren't working out. Why are our friendships falling apart? Why do these relationships that we are supposedly intended for feel so surface level and empty?
We know that it's a problem, but how do we fix it? How do we love each other better?
You surrender your heart to Jesus; you give it to Him and he cleans it. He takes away that worldly "love" and He fills your heart with His beautiful, selfless love. We can only love because He first loved us. We can't expect to love others the way Jesus did-- the way we are called to, until we have allowed Him to fill our hearts with His love. We do this by surrendering 100 percent of ourselves to Him. Christlike love can not come from an unsurrendered heart.
"Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God." -1 John 4:7
Today, I encourage you to consciously surrender your heart to the one who loves you so perfectly.