I think I have read every romance novel there is. I have read love stories ranging from historical romance to the cliché Nicholas Sparks’ novels. They all have the same plot, but here I am, reading every single one and crying at the end. What can I say? I love love. I’d like to call myself an expert in the romance novel department; they have taught me a lot of things and I have learned a lot about myself. One of the things that I have learned about myself is that I am not the kind of girl who thinks prince charming is coming to rescue me; I’d much rather have an ogre and a talking donkey.
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Unfortunately, today’s idea of romance does match the plot of my novels. Today, people strive for #RelationshipGoals.
Nowadays, if your boyfriend texts you saying that you are pretty, you post it online to show all of your friends and then they strive to be like you. Oh and god forbid they leave something on your doorstep and you don’t post it online-- shame on you. Every girl wants that stupid crown ring from Pandora, so your boyfriend can call you “his princess”. Ugh, please excuse me while I gag. Society has dragged us into believing that relationships have to meet a certain level of perfection to be something of worth.
Your boyfriend should tell you that you are pretty all the time. Your boyfriend should do nice things for you, as you should do the same. This should not be such a rare occasion that you feel the need to post it online. Today's relationships are all about being just like everyone else.
People need to realize that love and relationships are not all about one upping each other and being the same. Every person is different, and so every relationship will be different. People fall in love in mysterious ways, (thank you Ed Sheeran). So no one should want to have #RelationshipGoals like everyone else.
I do not want my boyfriend to give me a present that he saw on the Relationship Goals account on Twitter. Sadly, so many boys do this nowadays and I don’t even blame them. Its 100% the girls fault. Because society has told us that Cinderella is the perfect relationship goal. And social media has told us that if your boyfriend doesn’t send you a goodnight text then you are doing something wrong. Its stuff like that which makes me wonder why hand written letters disappeared, if you want to talk about a meaningful message that would be it.
So what I am really getting at here is that there is no right way to love. Yes, romance novels usually have a script and a lot of people feel the need to follow that line for line. But in reality you can read these books to find out what you really want in a relationship. Everyone is different and you should never change your standards based off the cliché romance rules. Create your own goals and think for yourself rather than what you think relationships are supposed to be like.
You don’t have to be trapped in a tower waiting for prince charming to come rescue you. You don’t have to be a damsel in distress wearing glass slippers. Instead, be your weird and quirky self and I can promise you that there is a just as weird of a prince charming waiting to find the girl wearing old worn in sneakers.
