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Stop Apologizing For Things You Don't Or Can't Change

"I'm sorry" is not a valid response when you won't change your shitty behavior.

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All too often, people say sorry for the wrong reasons and never even show remorse for the things that they should have remorse for. People apologize for mildly inconveniencing you every day, but do your loved ones apologize for forgetting to check up on you? The little apologies don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

Those little apologies that you say, just because you want to be polite and not because you actually care, are just a waste of everyone's time.

For example, someone says, "I got a flat tire today," and you say, "Aw, I'm sorry to hear that." Well, why on Earth are you sorry? Did you shove a nail in that tire all on your own?

There are other things that you can say than "sorry". People should simply just avoid the phrase altogether, as the power of the word is so much greater than people give it credit for.

I mean, if you cheat on someone, say you're sorry, and then cheat on them again, your apology was a waste of the Universe's time. People say things that they think will sound better, and it's just a waste of time anymore. If people could understand that not apologizing for things you don't care about would actually toughen everyone up, then maybe we'd have an honest society.

Instead of a fragile society that depends on apologies in order to feel better, even though an apology is just a formulation of a few words, that won't matter if the actions don't match the words anyway.

I asked someone why he didn't want to be a part of my life anymore, and he said, "I'm sorry, I've been busy. I'll try harder," as he proceeded to speak to me less and less in the following weeks. So, what is the point of the apology if you're just going to treat someone the same as before after you say it?

Stop wasting time with apologies and only give them if you actually plan on fixing the problem.

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