Lately I've been learning what dating in your 20's is really like. What does it entail? Let me break it down for you.
Our lovely generation has utilized social media as a dating pool. It all starts with a DM, or direct message. Sadly, this is the most effort you will probably see from someone anymore. What's even worse, you are constantly in competition for their attention. God forbid you are the type of person who still believes in monogamy, commitment, or honesty, because guess what? Nine times out of ten, that person who just DM'd you, is also DM'ing multiple other people. Trust me you're not special.
This is becoming more and more common in our generation. Trust me, I am not bitter towards the people who have done this to me, I am just tired of seeing it happen to everyone. Our generation has taken favor to "not wanting something serious." This way you can go out, act like you are not in a relationship, and then still have someone to come home to on the side. I am sorry, but you can't have your cake and eat it too.
The lack of face-to-face communication is what is deterring us. People say chivalry is dead, but it died the day we started basing it off the media. Music has made it acceptable to disrespect women and degrade them to sexual objects. Being a "savage" has made it okay for girls to break the good-guys hearts. It's actually looked down upon to care about someone, resulting in being labeled whipped or soft.
Twitter features posts like "relationship goals" which people view as unrealistic or expecting too much. I didn't know that taking your significant other out to dinner was impractical, did we get cheap, or did we just get lazy?
Did we forget what the ultimate relationship goal was, you know, marriage? People seem to forget relationships end in one of two ways; you either break up, or get married. I think that is why our generation has taken to talking. This way there is no commitment, no ties if you break up, and certainly no talk of marriage.
So what am I getting at here? Dating in your 20's sucks. When people say "these are the best years" I am assuming they are the ones who are not going through this "talking to someone" nonsense. Before you get sucked into the confusion and let downs remind yourself this; these are the years to focus on yourself. Get your education, build your empire, then worry about someone to spend your time with. Chances are, whoever you find right at this moment, only wants you temporarily.
