If there is one thing I absolutely cannot stand about society today, it is that we value making people comfortable over being honest with them. I know the truth isn’t always easy to hear and I get that, but I think part of the reason it is so hard to hear is simply because we just aren’t used to hearing it. We live in a world where the truth is either twisted for the sake of a news story or sugarcoated for the sake of not offending anyone, and it is a trend that definitely needs to stop. It may be a big task to get the media to stop doing it, but it isn’t unreasonable to stop doing it in your own life.

Nothing drives me crazier than knowing I’m being lied to, to me that is a huge sign of disrespect. I strive to spend my time with people I can count on to be real with me even when it’d be easier if they weren’t. I would rather hear a truth that stings a little than a lie that makes me feel good. However, the most challenging part of seeking honest people wasn’t the pain that can sometimes come with the truth but convincing myself that I was worth honesty. Healthy relationships don’t have room for lies and the sooner you start believing that you are worth more than that, the sooner you will start to realize how refreshing the truth can be.

Of course, while being honest is so important, there is something that we have to remember when we start to live for truth over comfort. Just because we want to be honest doesn’t mean we have to do it in a way that is hurtful. When honesty comes from a place of love and care, it shouldn’t feel like a giant sucker punch to the gut. It may hurt a little bit if it wasn’t something you wanted or expected to hear, but it should be said in a way that minimizes the blow. It should be respectful.

Another word of caution is that if you chose to start being more honest with yourself and others, know that there will be people in your life that can’t handle it and that is okay. Do not sacrifice truth for their comfort, you are worth more than that. The people who truly know and love you will be happy to see the change. The more honest you are, the more likely you are to find people who respect and love you for who you are.

As we get ready for a new year kicked off by unrealistic resolutions that we won’t stick with, maybe try this instead. In the new year, strive to bring honesty into your relationships and challenge your loved ones to do the same for you. Always remember that you are worth the truth, and anyone who doesn’t see that isn’t worth your time. Honesty isn’t easy, but it is a trend this world desperately needs.