We've all seen the memes, the videos, etc of the 'cute' but psycho relationships. They usually say stuff like "my man isn't allowed to talk to no other female but me and his mom," and "my best friend is MY best friend, no one else's." This kind of relationships is glorified and worshiped on social media. But in all reality, these relationships are straight up toxic and manipulative.
Before I continue, there is nothing wrong with being protective of your loved ones, but when that protection gets in the way of their own personal choices it becomes abusive. Controlling who your loved one sees and talks to is abusive. When you feel like you have to know where your partner is at all times is abusive. Going through your partner's cell phone trying to find out if they're cheating on you is abusive. You can be jealous of who your partner or friend is talking to, but if you trust them then there is no need to do these things. If you think you need to do these things, you might want to rethink your relationship as a whole. You should be mature enough to realize that your partner will talk to others, and there is no justified reason to be that upset about if the relationship is healthy.
Here are some more signs of a toxic relationship:
When saying 'no' isn't an option for you. A healthy relationship needs communication; if you or your partner gets unreasonably upset when one of you say 'no' to the other one, it's a toxic relationship. Your partner (and you) should respect that sometimes they are not going to want the same things as you.
Any physical abusive; leave leave leave.
If your partner (or you) dismiss the other's problems. "That sucks but I am going through worse stuff." "Get over it, I've dealt with worse." Respect your partner's struggles, and help them get through no matter how small it may seem.
If there is no privacy. You and your partner share all your social media with each other, share passwords etc. Where is the trust here? Isn't that part of the relationship itself? Trust your partner, it's why you're with them in the first place.
If your partner (or you) constantly puts you down, insults you constantly instead of bringing you up. Criticizes the way you look, or what you do.
There are many, many more signs of a toxic relationship but these are some of the main ones.
"Life is too short to waste one, single second with someone who doesn't appreciate and value you."- Anonymous
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