For 2019, your resolution should be to not have one.
Ok, I KNOW this is a hot take and that this is what lazy people say to let themselves keep being lazy. This also is what people say when they weigh less than my cat, can afford to drink kale smoothies everyday and have a black range rover. I am neither #superlazy or living like that, but still. Let's stop the resolutions.
In no way am I encouraging you to enter 2019 with your same bad habits; if you need to get into shape, go live a healthy lifestyle. If you're turning in homework late every week, stop procrastinating. Make the changes you want to see, because no one knows you like you! I get how resolutions are appealing -- 2019 is a fresh new start and that's motivation to make a change.
So what's wrong with making a resolution? They're goals to set for a whole entire new year and it's a way to hit the refresh button -- but like, is it? If you can seriously say that you're ending every year saying to yourself, "wowee gee, I achieved my resolution", then nice, happy for you, this is not going to be a very relatable article.
But I know for myself and friends that I recently asked, all of us agreed that resolutions just didn't last the year, or even a couple of weeks. I remember in freshman year of high school, I made the resolution to eat less chocolate. Like what? Ok? Thx????? This clearly did not work out for me. I also made a resolution the next year to stop being a total jerk to people when I was in a bad mood -- please let me know if that worked out. I'm feeling like it didn't.
When you set a long-term resolution for an entire year, how are you supposed to regulate it? This may seem cynical (spoiler alert: everything I write is), but I just always get a bit agitated with the new year. Things aren't going to change when the clock goes to midnight; though I would LOVE to walk into 2019 with a 6-pack, 4.0 GPA and a gorgeous boyfriend, these things simply won't happen. I'll wake up and it's really just another day.
So yes, the symbolism of a new year is lovely and refreshing to most. If these resolutions really DO help you, then awesome! Yay! Ignore me. I'm just tired of seeing a swarm of people in the gym on January 1st when I know that 1/3 of them won't be there in a week. Or when that girl in your intro to sociology class whips out her planner on syllabus week and spends thirty minutes writing in different colors, "𝓉𝑜𝒹𝒶𝓎: 𝓈𝓎𝓁𝓁𝒶𝒷𝓊𝓈 𝓌𝑒𝑒𝓀".
If you want to make a change in your life, waiting until the year's numerical value changes really isn't going to help too much. I feel like the general culture around a resolution here is to wait until the year changes then half-heartedly just hop on a treadmill or start using your planner. If you really want to see a change in your life, make a short-term plan. Do it now. Live more in the present, because on NYE, the clock will change and people will celebrate (if anyone has a NYE kiss in front of me I'll run myself over with a scooter) but nothing changes.
Making a vague plan that's supposed to last you 12 months isn't realistic. Don't get me wrong, people can change and achieve goals -- this literally happens ALL the TIME. It's just that these awkward long-term goals don't do much good.
Your life is right now, and the second you want to change, that's on you. So go learn how to get a better workout in, set techniques for when you're feeling ~mean~ today, or find what study technique works for you. Or don't. Idk. Just hold off on making a resolution.
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