Disclaimer: I know this article will make a lot of you mad. I don't care.
When I brought my first boyfriend home to meet my dad, my dad put on his cowboy boots just so he could maximize how much he towered over him. He shook his hand way too hard (it was bright red afterwards) and interrogated him on his life plans, his sports records, and his favorite football team. My dad also told him that if he ever hurt "his little girl" that he had a shotgun with my boyfriend's name on it.
My dad has been like this all my life, and I'm sure as some of you are reading this you're laughing because this sounds like your dad, too. It's funny and also heartwarming- dads are supposed to be protective of their little girls.
My dad is voting for Republican Presidential Candidate Donald Trump on November 8th, and as I've spent the last few months following the race almost obsessively, this nagging contradiction grew and grew; how could my dad support this man? How could any dad? Or person at all?
It gives me shivers to imagine what my dad would do if he had asked my boyfriend, "So what are your intentions with my daughter?" and he replied, "Well, sir, I'm the quarterback of the football team, so I'm basically a star, and girls let me do anything to 'em. I'm gonna take your daughter to dinner, and after, I'm gonna grab her by the p**** because she'll let me."
Or if, when I spent days crying alone in my room after my breakup, my dad came in to hug me and asked me why it had ended, I had said to him, "Well, he said I had a fat ugly face. He called me Miss Piggy."
That poor boy wouldn't be alive today.
So why does my dad, and why do millions of Americans not only accept this behavior from a presidential candidate but excuse it? If my dad would kill a 20-year-old boy for saying these things, why is he defending a grown man running for President of the United States for saying them?
This contradiction ate away at me, and the more I thought, the angrier I became.
In elementary school, we had a rule where if you got in trouble and tried to blame someone else for it, you got twice the detention time. I remember scribbling all over my desk in red expo marker, and when I got caught, I sputtered, "But SHE was writing all over hers in Sharpie! She should be in trouble, not me!"
My teacher explained to me at age seven that blaming or accusing somebody else doesn't make you any less wrong.
Donald Trump, at age seventy, still doesn't understand this. He is publicly called out for his disgusting actions again and again, and for whatever reason that I can't seem to fathom, yelling about all the bad things Hillary Clinton has done gets him off the hook. Every. Single. Time.
So for the sake of my argument, I want to request that you do something contradictory to what anyone who's been following the race has done- put politics aside.
Do not think about immigration policies or tax legislation or parties. Do not even think about Hillary Clinton. Think only about Donald Trump.
Not Donald Trump the brand name, not the presidential candidate- just a man.
Donald Trump is a sexist, misogynistic, homophobic, racist, xenophobic, sorry excuse for a human being. He is a sexual predator, he is a con artist, and he is a baby.
If you don't believe me, click any of those words.
I challenge you to do something- imagine a male in your life. A friend. A boyfriend. A teacher. Your father. Your neighbor. Take just one of Donald Trump's quotes from any of those linked articles above and put them in that man's mouth.
Would you defend him?
If a professor said to me, "That must be a pretty picture, you on your knees." Not only would I file a sexual assault case against him, he would be fired.
Billy Bush, the man Donald Trump said all those lewd "hot mic" comments to on that Access Hollywood bus, has been terminated from his job. His career is ruined for just egging on what Trump was saying.
He got fired for encouraging Trump to say those things.
Donald Trump said them and is still running for president of the United States.
Now, think about a woman in your life. Your best friend. Your roommate. Your sorority sister. I want you to imagine her calling you hysterically crying in the middle of the night, saying that a boy she liked called her a "fat cow."
Would you defend him?
This is not a boy your friend likes. This is not a random man in your life.
This is not me being angry because "blood is coming out of my everywhere."
This is me appalled that a potential president of the country I have been raised to love with my whole heart can say these things, and people genuinely feel morally right defending him.
I have always considered myself one of the most tolerant people I know. I vote as an independent- not a democrat. I love talking about politics with anyone who will listen, with my own views or with views completely opposite. I was tolerant of those who voted republican in the primaries. I was tolerant of Marco Rubio supporters, Jeb Bush supporters, even Ted Cruz supporters.
As a human being with even a sliver of a conscience, I cannot tolerate Donald Trump. As a self-respecting woman who believes women have the right to their own bodies and to say "no," to whomever they please, I cannot tolerate Donald Trump. As an American who believes in the integrity and the dignity of our country and of the administration of the president, I cannot tolerate Donald Trump.
I do not care who he is as a politician. He is a disgusting man, and I cannot excuse anything he has done or said any longer.
If you're a Trump supporter, I challenge you to ask yourself - how can you?