Stop letting Social Media Dictate your Relationship

Our generation has become most dependent on Social Media.

Majority of the time it is more of us females subconsciously getting upset about it

When you are dating it seems that our thoughts about our boyfriend or girlfriend stem from whose pictures they are liking, how many times they have posted you on their Instagram, and, most importantly, was it a good enough caption that proved you all’s love.

But a relationship should not be based on what kind of post you give your significant other

What I want to understand is where we lost real connections, asking girls out on dates and flowers given instead of DMing and posts on social media.

Where we lost the real meaning to relationships and real communication and I do not mean the convenient text that you can send when you are upset

And where we accepted that the way we handle confrontation we just put up a venting post on Facebook rather than meeting with your significant other to talk about it

Don’t settle for anything less than the real love between two people and never confuse a sappy post as something that defines your relationship.

Find someone who lights a spark inside of you because he brought you flowers or because he asked you out on a date.

Who makes you feel beautiful by the way he looks at you or how often he compliments you.

Who is nothing but loyal to you.

Who is special in one another’s hearts for all of the right reasons and not the ones that your thumbs type and hit post on social media to prove the significant placement to each other.

Find the one that makes you want to do better.

The determination to make each other happy in realistic ways not based off of the "Relationship Goals" twitter sets for people

Who makes you forget about the social media because y’all care more about the time spent with each other rather than what your friends are posting on their snap chat stories

You have nothing to prove to your followers, prove your love to your person

Just because you aren't in his profile picture does not mean he does not love you, other gestures should be the ones that matter and make you confident you all's love

I believe that true and real love is out there but we must demand things other than social media posts

Demand the things that matter like respect and loyalty to one another

Build the foundation on a higher ground than just Instagram and Facebook and create an unforgettable love rather than what Time hop reminded you that you enjoyed a year ago.

And by no means do I believe it is wrong to post about your loved one but I am saying don’t depend on it to be your foundation, create other things rather than posts… much more meaningful things.

Find someone that’s worth putting down the sappy social media posts and really make them feel special inside with the little things like flowers, cute notes or a date night once a week.

Find the love you deserve and don’t accept anything less.