Twitter is at it again with its unsettling trends, and one of the most overdone tweets is focused on being the "crazy" boyfriend or girlfriend, and it needs to stop.
The person who tweeted about how they've practically harassed someone for speaking to their boo is getting thousands of retweets and replies of "yes queen!" amongst others, and I can't be the only person wondering what is so lovable about this.
2018 must apparently be the year to act out on your partner for practically anything, and then post about how you "handled" the situation in the most toxic and disgusting way. I'm speaking for everyone when I say it's time to give it a rest and get a reality check.
It isn't cute to be crazy.
The glorification started with one of the most popular tweets, the "before I'm fed versus after" style posts that are saying it's okay to be insane because you're hungry. Are we animals? It sounds stupid when it's broken down, doesn't it?
It only went downhill from there— so far down that people are posting their partner's broken makeup palettes and PS4s all because their S/O didn't behave. These people are forgetting that those objects are not their property, and neither is their partner. Don't punish your S/O for doing something that you were uncomfortable with when you could usually talk through it when it is something minor.
While it is argued that these things are done out of love, it is clear that the only point being put across is a lack of maturity and self-control. And if you know you're that person, question your values and whether or not you should be in a relationship.
This isn't the right way to show love.
There are alternate ways to prove your love to someone other than being overly protective. And there are also alternate ways to gain followers and retweets on Twitter that don't involve sharing these toxic messages with others.
We are taking the traits that lie behind a healthy relationship and replacing them with new standards that force the idea that our partner should only be talking to us, taking care of us, and thinking of us. If they aren't, then it's okay to lash out and post it online.
There should be enough trust in your relationship that seeing your S/O talking to someone else should not be some sort of trigger to act out. While we rely on our partners for certain things, we should never rely on them for things we should be doing ourselves, like eating. And there is never a good time to plaster your relationship problems online.
If you're happy, don't fall victim to the standards that are seemingly so popular these days. And if you're unhappy, recognize that you're better off without your S/O, but don't take things too far— you want to come out of it looking like the bigger person.
It's time to ditch the trend of being the overly protective, way too jealous partner, and time to go back to having faith, trust, and maturity.
Defy 2018 Twitter and keep your sensibility.
