We have grown up in a generation where it is easier to ignore the problem rather then deal with it head on. We ghost people, rather then telling them how we feel. Or we break the news to them through text messages or social media to avoid seeing a physical reaction to the words we say.

It could be due to that ease of technology or maybe the lack of face-to-face communication, but in the recent years, I’ve noticed a lack of sensitivity to the next person’s feelings to avoid hurting our own or humiliating yourself. So let’s set this straight. IT IS NOT OKAY TO GHOST SOMEONE. IT IS NOT OKAY TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE VIA TEXT MESSAGE OR SOCIAL MEDIA.

I get it - breaking up with someone takes a lot of balls. Even if this person has done horrible things to you and the relationship sucked. It’s much easier literally ignore the problem. Sometimes we say “this way is easier for the both of us”. Stop lying to yourself. It maybe easier for you because you don’t have to deal with someone who could possibly become upset but it really isn’t easier for the other person. The other person is left not knowing what happened or if something could have been done. They get left literally to make up endless scenarios on how things could have played out better. Most of the time it take more time for this person to move one and they’ll always be kind of stuck to you in some way. They need the closure and quite frankly you do too. So be honest and tell them what’s up.

So rather then ignore someone when they do something that doesn’t please you or rather then giving them super short answers. Tell them. Rather then sending them them “it not going to work” text meet up with them in person and if you really can’t deal with seeing them upset call them. They deserve a lot more than that.

Ending things over text message isn’t appropriate and neither is ghosting someone. Speaking from personal experience it hurts less to be told what happened then to not know anything. So please grow a pair and do things the right way, be a little more sensitive, and be honest. It’ll work out a lot better for you.

Please just grow a pair and use your grown up words.