If I asked you to name everything you loved how long would it take for you to name yourself?

We all have hardships or obstacles in our life along with those people in our lives that just seem to never make our life any easier.

Unfortunately, sometimes our biggest enemy is our self.

We are the most critical of ourselves, we procrastinate when we know we would be better off starting early, we think of every negative scenario in our head to make ourselves feel miserable when we deserve to be happy.

It is almost like we look for all these validations from other people or things. We need the right amount of friends, the degree, the great boyfriend/girlfriend, the killer job, the beautiful house and the vacations everyone is jealous of when we post pictures of it on social media. Since when did we need all these things to make us feel fulfilled and prove we live a happy life? Why are we always looking for something to fill some gap within ourselves and our life?

People always talk about going to find themselves, but when did we lose ourselves? When did being alone become dreaded instead of considered independent? What age did we start to care what people think? Why did we start depending on other people to make us happy? What age did we start to question ourselves? Who we are? Are we a good person or a bad person? When did we learn the standards of what makes a good person or what makes a bad person? When were we taught it is important what we look like? Or learn to need approval and validation from people and things to be happy?

When we start needing all these things and thinking we are doomed without them is when we become our own worst enemy. This crazy mindset will never leave us fully happy. Maybe we should look back on our younger selves when we were a carefree kid and we did something just because it was fun and we liked it. Not because it was something to post on social media or because we thought it was the right thing to do according to everyone else.

What would you do today if you knew you would not fail and people would think it was great no matter what?

Start doing those things. Do anything in your power to help yourself do those things and not hold yourself back. Sometimes we have all these problems and want to blame someone when the only person to blame is our self. When you go for a job interview you say what a hard worker you are and how hard you will work. Start working hard for yourself. Do not half a** anything, use your whole a**. Realize that sometimes you're the root of your problems, but you're also your solution. Be able to look in the mirror and not need any validation from anyone.