With graduation coming up reality is sinking in. I get asked frequently what my plans are after I graduate.

I am one of the lucky ones who has an actual plan after graduation. I am going on my second year at my current job and will continue to work throughout the summer five days a week. In August I will be attending law school. For the next three years I will be drowning in work, my own tears, and debt. But at least I have a plan of action.

For a lot of individuals they are not sure of their plans after graduation. Some graduates may have a job lined up pertaining to their degree, go to graduate school, or end up working in a job not associated to their degree. Then there are those that have absolutely no idea what they are doing after graduation.

These graduates endure the worst. They are constantly questioned, look down upon, and maybe even taken pity with. However, not having specific plans after graduation is okay and more people need to realize this and get of the backs of those graduates. Every person’s situation is different. Some graduates know exactly what their passion is while others find it later in life. Some graduates want to pursue a higher level of education immediately following graduation, while others prefer taking a year or more off.

No matter the situation, we as graduates are tired of being asked what are plans are after graduation. Plans change and so do our passions. Not knowing what you want t do or what your plans are after graduation is okay! Society asking us what are plans are after graduation is a constant reminder of not only the uncertainty but a reminder of the fear we so desperately do not want to face; adulthood.

Even though I have a plan I am still uncertain what I am going to do after graduation. I am fearful that my plans will collapse or that maybe I’m not ready to be an adult. Being asked consistently reinsures my fear of being an adult. I think it is safe to say that no one is certain about their plans for anything.

So please stop asking graduates what their plans are after graduation. We do not want to be reminded of what is to come, but instead we want to celebrate for our achievements and accomplishments. So cut us some slack.