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Stereotypes Of Being A Military Girlfriend

The distance is hard, but loving him is the easiest thing I've ever done.

Natalie Shumate

Dec 18, 2019

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Stereotypes Of Being A Military Girlfriend

"You’ll be giving up your dreams to be with him. "

Do people do this? Yes. I know multiple people who start dating someone in the military and give up their own dreams so they can marry them and move around with them. Personally, I'm not doing that. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we've both agreed that even though we're together, we want to do our own individual things. I'm going to college and succeeding in my own goals and he's by my side to support me.

“When’s the wedding?”

My boyfriend left for Japan on Nov. 22. I was telling some of my friends at school how I missed him after he had left and my teacher said. "if you miss him, why don't you just marry him?" I thought he was kidding but he wasn't. Not every military couple gets married as soon as possible. Yes, a lot of military couples get married super young but not all of them do. Side note, even if the military spouse life was the life I wanted to live, getting married to my boyfriend wouldn't make me miss him any less. My boyfriend's in the Navy so he lives on the ship and works in the ship. I would never be able to even be with him! I'd still miss him! When he got deployed I wouldn't be able to go with him. When he gets a new home station, I wouldn't be able to travel with him. Us getting married wouldn't make me miss him any less.

"Your military significant other must be cheating on you."

This is a constant thought from people who aren't or never have been in a military relationship. Yes, cheating happens, but it's a possibility in every relationship, not just long-distance relationships. It's not that hard to have self-control. If you start to get feelings for someone else, then break up with your current S.O. For some reason, people associate cheating more with military couples than ordinary couples. That's ridiculous. It can happen to anyone.

"You’re only together for the benefits."

Back to the marriage point made earlier, everyone not only assumes you'll be giving up your dreams and getting married hella fast, but you don't actually love them. Of course, there are benefits to marrying someone in the military, but very seldom do people get married just for the benefits. Are some people materialistic when it comes to their military relationship? I'm sure there's at least one person that's only with their S.O for their money or benefits, but that one person should make up for everyone else.

Being in a relationship with someone who's in the military is hard, but loving them is so easy.

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"You’re only together for the benefits."

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2. When there is only one section of a popular course.

3. Receiving the 18,000 emails reminding you to register ASAP.

4. When you need to see an advisor, but they are too busy/unresponsive.

5. Trying not to dress like a bum for your appointments with your advisors/department heads.

6. When you have a perfectly planned out schedule, and one class ruins it.

7. Carefully moving things around to accommodate a different class/section.

8. Waking up at 6:00 a.m. for your enrollment time.

9. Concocting a new schedule at your enrollment time after your original plan gets changed.

10. Getting into a class and filling the last available seat.

11. When all of your classes finally go through.

12. Realizing that you forgot a class that was a pre-requisite for everything else.

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4. When it's 2 AM and you remember you have a test tomorrow.

5. When you finish taking the test and you're pretty sure you failed...

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7. When you've been up for 12 hours straight writing a paper.

8. And then you manage to stay awake in class the next day.

9. When you have to butter up your professor for an extra credit opportunity.

10. When you're assigned a group project.

11. And your group-mates are trying to chat about life instead of the assignment.

12. When it's your last class of the day and you're about to go home.

13. But then you remember rent is due tonight and the anger comes back.

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