Trust me when I say that I get it.
You might not know when it happened, or exactly why it happened, and that's okay. What's not OK is staying in this state permanently. You need to get up, shake off the dust, and help yourself become much better than you were before.
Here are 10 steps to helping you get back on your feet after you've lost your spark.
1. Practice better eating habits.
Try your best to eat the recommended number of meals each day, and make sure what you're eating has nutritional value. Changing your eating habits is a great way to help you feel better.
2. Exercise regularly.
Exercise is a great stress reliever, and I don't mean just lifting weights and running. You could swim, or do yoga which are two very relaxing forms of exercise.
3. Practice positivity.
I recently saw a tweet that suggested replacing the word sorry with thank you. Therefore, instead of saying, "Sorry, I'm late," you can say, "Thank you for waiting for me." Just a small but effective way to turn a negative into a positive.
4. Invest more time in the things the make you happy.
This could be your friends, a hobby or any number of things. If it makes you happy, then you should definitely spend more time doing it.
5. Free yourself from toxic relationships.
This can be a hard one because toxic relationships come in many forms. However, don't be afraid to free yourself from any relationship. That is detrimental to you and your own health.
6. Meditate.
Meditation is a great way to focus on yourself, think positive thoughts and relax. I didn't think it actually worked until I tried it, and it has made a real difference. If you aren't sure where to start, there are great apps to guide you.
7. Take care of yourself.
This is a broad one, but personally, I feel better when my hair is done and have makeup on. You could easily get your nails done, or just making sure your hair is brushed every day. Really, it can be anything that boosts your self-esteem.
8. Practice building yourself up rather than tearing yourself down.
This one is difficult. As humans, it is easy to focus on the things that we don't like about ourselves, but we should be spending more time focusing on all of the great things about us. I'm not saying that you can't want to change something about yourself, but make sure you are doing it in a positive way.
9. Don't rely on others for your happiness.
I know it's easy to get lost looking for someone to be in your life. However, the more that you place your happiness on that someone being in your life, the less happy you are going to be.
Find happiness in yourself, and that happiness will attract a person that matches the level of happy that you have.
10. Keep track of your progress and reflect.
When on the road to getting your spark back and becoming a better you, it's going to be difficult at times. You are going to have to take baby steps, and there are probably going to be setbacks, but keeping track of the progress you are making and reflecting on how far you have come is a great way to stay motivated.