Allow me to casually open by admitting that I am the furthest thing from a dating coach or relationship expert. What I aim to accomplish in this article is to give my readers the number one best piece of dating advice I have ever come across in my own trials and tribulations. Whether you are getting out of a long and miserable relationship, pulling yourself from the “forever alone” mentality, or simply wanted to gain some clarity on how to approach dating… this advice covers your own varying scenario.

So how do I start dating again? For most of us, the impulsion to simply throw ourselves out into the dating swarm of men and women seems like a good idea. This impulse is meaningful, but for my readers I encourage you NOT to follow it… just yet that is.

So you landed on this article in hopes of feeling inspired and confident and desirable enough to cast your perfectness into a sea of people, hoping to be someone’s perfect catch. What if I told you that this idea has one huge flaw most overlook? Think of the phrase “in hopes of feeling…” and tell me where that journey begins? You guessed it… it begins with yourself.

The number one thing you absolutely must do before beginning your path to dating greatness is to take a very personal and transparent survey of your emotional health. Are you happy? Are you emotionally stable? Are your thoughts about yourself kind? Do you think about things in an emotionally healthy way? Are there things about your personality that you feel need to be adjusted in order to be the best version of yourself? What are you looking for in a relationship? What are things that are non negotiable in a partner?

And why do I think this is the best, most personal thing you can do for yourself? Because in order to attract quality you must first FEEL like you are quality. I know your value, and you should too! So quit waiting on the perfect person to enter your life and instead ATTRACT their perfection by continually working on yourself and the inside of your heart every day.

Ever wonder why the impulse to lose yourself in the crowd is so strong when you attempt to re-enter the dating arena? Would you hate me if I suggested that the urge to do so is actually your way of avoiding the one person who has the power over every single thing in your life… which is you. You are the one who feels the pain, angst, turmoil, aggression, fears, but you are also the one who can transcend those with happiness, positivity, contentment, kindness, and confidence.