Last week a Twitter user attacked Ariana Grande, posting "Mac Miller totaling his G wagon and getting a DUI after Ariana Grande dumped him for another dude after he poured his heart out on a ten song album to her called divine feminine is just the most heartbreaking thing happening in Hollywood" (@FlintElijah).

This tweet is in response to Ariana Grande ending her several-year relationship with rapper Mac Miller for unknown reasons, and then initiating a relationship with Saturday Night Live star Pete Davidson about a week later. Mac Miller produced the album "Divine Feminine" during his relationship with Grande, and most songs were about a woman in his life. Grande was even featured on one song, "My Favorite Part."

In response to the tweet, Ariana Grande wrote:

"How absurd that you minimize female self-respect and self-worth by saying someone should stay in a toxic relationship because he wrote an album about them, which btw isn't the case (just Cinderella is ab me). I am not a babysitter or a mother and no woman should feel that they need to be. I have cared for him and tried to support his sobriety & prayed for his balance for years (and always will of course) but shaming / blaming women for a man's inability to keep his shit together is a very major problem. let's please stop doing that. of course, I didn't share about how hard or scary it was while it was happening but it was. I will continue to pray from the bottom of my heart that he figures it all out and that any other woman in this position does as well."

It is so important that Ariana Grande publicly made this statement.

She was easily named the victimizer in this situation (and, I admit, before I saw this statement I blamed her as well) because all that the public could see was the songs Mac Miller wrote for her. Not only did Grande prove that there is more to a relationship than meets the eye and the public should be less harsh in their judgments of other people's relationships, she also helped women in relationships understand that just because a man does something kind for you (even if it isn't as grand as producing an album about you), that doesn't make the relationship non-toxic. Self-respect is, like Grande wrote, about recognizing that the good sometimes doesn't outweigh the bad.