People act different in relationships. So why should my relationship be your business? Yes, I spend less time with my friends, and I drag my boyfriend to family outings and vacations, but why is this a problem to you? If you truly care about me as a person, you should be happy that I found my better half and I'm not crying every night over high hopes that were smashed by a boy who never deserved me.
As a woman in her 20s, I am going to be thinking about my future. My diploma, that empty space on my left ring finger, if I want babies or puppies, or if I will ever have my own family. Sure, this is young, but at this point in my life, I can see a future with this man I call my boyfriend. In other words, why would I not spend every possible second with him? My heart has never been so full, and my smile has never been so big. So why is this a big deal?
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He won't throw me to the side like my so called friends would. I can trust him with all of my heart to not go to his friends spilling all of my dirt, even though I spill my own secrets. I don't have to act different around him, because I know he loves me for me, not my great essay writing skills or my closet.
Sure, if we fight I am going to turn to my friends to cry on their laps, but those are my true friends. Those are the friends that let me spend my life with someone who is so important to me without a complaint. Those are the friends that somebody may be standing next to me on my special day. These friends are the ones who actually take time to get to know my boyfriend, not just that simple blow off hi.
He has fixed all of my insecurities that I had when I was surrounded by the hungry eyes of immature college boys, notice how I say boys. These insecurities can't be solved by my girlfriends, because they can't express love like he does. These insecurities grew over time, and with one look he makes them disappear, he makes me myself again. Why is this a problem to you?
Yes, I would rather be on the couch with him than going out every night with drunken idiots on a week night, even a weekend. I don't have to impress anyone but him, so why would I go out in a frat house surrounded by gross minded low lives, when I could be in the arms of the man I love? Sure, girls nights are needed, but I don't need to dress up with red lipstick and high heels to feel good anymore. I have my boyfriend's trust in me to have fun and be safe without any trouble, and that is all I need.
So yes, I do spend way too much time with my boyfriend. And yes, I hear your complaints of being distracted by him, and no I don't care. He makes me happy, I love him and I wouldn't spend my time any other way. A relationship needs 100 percent of love and attention, and I am giving this my all. I am planning that my future is going to be with him, so why not act like it?
