Dear Future Husband,
I love you already.
I am a planner with all things, and that is no different when it comes to my personal life and the person that I will spend forever with. I have spent most of my high school and college years watching "Sex and the City" and having an image of who my Mr.Big would be. Of course, he would have to be handsome and have nice eyes, but those things are superficial. I have heard that it's about what is beneath the surface that matters, and to not judge a book by it's cover.
When I was a little girl, I had a timeline that marked everything was suppose to happen in life. I was suppose to get married by 23, and have kids by 25, and I would be a successful doctor, I would have it all -- and that's just not reality. The guys I've dated are not marriage material -- nothing about them spells husband material. Here is my list of what my future husband will have.
1. A love for God.
This is by far the most important. My relationship with Christ has grown over the years, and my faith is one of the strongest things about me. A marriage should be centered around Christ, and it is important that the person you marry has a relationship with Christ. Being a man of God and honoring what is sacred with marriage.
2. Respect, forgiveness and honesty.
Being kind to people even when they don't deserve it, is something that my future husband will have. It is not easy to turn the other cheek and to give forgiveness even when you don't want to. Forgiveness is so important in every relationship you have whether it's your husband, friend or another family member. If you can't find forgiveness in your heart, then how do you expect to make a situation better or even love a person for forever when you can't forgive. I am a believer that honesty is the best policy. Nothing good can come out of telling a lie. My future husband will honor me in giving me respect, forgiveness and honesty even if it is difficult.
3. A heart that wants to keep giving.
Some people are not as fortunate as others, and having a desire to help others no matter the cost is important to me, having a desire to want to give back to the community, and to be something more than just average. That means a loving heart and a kind soul to want to do things willingly for other people.
4. A love deeper for his family.
To me, family is the most important thing. To join my family is something special, and to accept them is even more special. Of course, one day I want to have children, and it is important to me that my husband wants to adopt children from orphanages outside of the United States. Building a family together should also be set around Christ and love, honor and truth. Family is sacred, and my future husband will love his family just as much as I love mine and will have a desire to raise our kids with love in their hearts.
5. A lot of patience.
My brother always tells me that the guy I end up with needs to have patience because I am hard to handle. There is truth to that. I am stubborn to a fault, and very impatient. God bless the man who will put up with me for the rest of my life because I know I am hard to handle, and it will take a very special person to put up with my feisty self.
6. A career.
I've known since I was seven years old that I wanted to become a doctor. I knew I wanted to help people, and to make them better again. My future husband will have to be something more than lazy. Sitting on the sofa eating chips isn't acceptable, and it's not going to pay the bills. My future husband will want to provide for his family and will have the drive to become something not only for himself but for me.
My promise to my future husband.
I promise that when I meet you, I won't look at superficial characteristics; I will dive deep to see what makes your soul tick. I promise to not be such a pain even though I will break that promise because it is bound to happen. I promise to love you unconditionally in the eyes of Christ, and to always tell you the truth. Most of all, I promise to forgive you. Always. "Ever thine, ever mine, ever ours." Carrie Bradshaw and Mr.Big.
