If you don’t know how Bigs and Littles work in a sorority by now, you have clearly been living under a rock. For those that do, and for those that are in a sorority or fraternity themselves, you know that this is a very important and sacred aspect of life in a sister or brotherhood. Finding a Big is like finding your second mother; she gives you guidance, she listens to your problems, she mentors you, and obviously, she buys you things. She is your “right hand” and your “go-to.” Your Big is someone you strive to be like, and therefore every girl feels that they need the perfect one.
Big and Little. Big Sis and Little Sis. Just the two of you, right? Wrong. Just as in real birth, there is always the possibility of twins! A Big can take two, even three Littles (really as many as her heart desires). This means twice the dough spent, twice the crafting, and the Big’s attention gets spread twice as thin. Sorority girls often pray that they do not face the fate of becoming a twin, and this is obviously because they want their Big’s attention all to themselves. Having a twin comes with a sense of competition and comparison, and it is not uncommon for Twins to feel threatened and therefore grow to dislike one another. Sounds unfortunate, right?
Turns out I was a Twin.
Upon my first realization that my Big had taken two Littles including myself, I was weary. I am not a very loud or outspoken girl, so the thought of having to compete for the attention of my Big was something that worried me. What if they had a stronger connection? What if my Twin was the favorite? I wasn’t prepared for the sisterly love triangle that I assumed was about to ensue.
Well, this is the part of the story during which I tell you that all of my fears were for nothing. Having a Twin is possibly one of the best things that could have happened to me during my college career. Just as real siblings are built-in playmates for one another, becoming a Twin was like my Big blessing me with a built-in best friend. I simply could not imagine my college life without her. She has taught me new things, opened me up to new experiences, broken me out of my shell, and even served as my wing-woman. While other Twins feel jealousy towards each other and barely speak, I could not imagine family gatherings without my Twin. I truly am fortunate. Everything is more fun when she is around, and now that our Big has graduated, she is what keeps my little sorority family alive. We now both have Littles, and even Grand-Littles of our own, and I could not imagine growing my family without her by my side. While other girls may feel that they lucked out by not having to share their Big with another girl, I feel sorry for them. I have never once felt forced or obligated to share anything with my Twin. Instead, I have felt privileged to be able to share with her the wonderful experiences that sorority life has brought me. She has been everything a real twin sister would be and more, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
