As I normally do, I was scrolling through the articles on Cosmopolitan's site when I came across a title that read "My Sorority Dumped Me." Being in a sorority myself, I was curious. And so I clicked.

Turns out, on Dec. 2, 2007, DePauw University's Delta Zeta released 23 of its 35 members because they were no longer worthy of the sorority's name. These women had not been released from drinking, hazing, or any other conduct violations, but instead, had been removed because they were not "good or attractive enough." After noting that Delta Zeta's chapter at DePauw had a reputation of not being well-liked and was even referred to as "the Dog House," the sorority sent national representatives and alumni to the university. Rather than boosting their morale and encouraging them stand ground with their individuality, these representatives and alumni held workshops on how to improve their image, even hosting lessons on how to dress and wear makeup. Women who did not comply were involuntarily given alumna status and told to move out of the house, as they were no longer active members. After Delta Zeta's actions were made aware by the university, DePauw severed ties with the sorority.

Having published an article about finding my home in my sisters just months ago, I was appalled. I still am. Though I understand the intentions behind Delta Zeta's actions, that they wished for its members to represent the women well, the national headquarters failed to realize that these women already did. Prior to their interference, DePauw's Delta Zeta women were in proper academic standing, made no conduct violations, and empowered one another -- all of which are factors that represent a strong sisterhood of any sorority. Though it is even important that my sisters and I are cautious of how we present ourselves when sporting our letters, never, in my time as a part of Phi Mu, have I ever had to question my place and whether or not I was accepted by my sisters. Furthermore, I have never even doubted that my sorority beyond my own chapter's members supported me. Though I will admit that each sorority at Tulane has a certain "reputation" attached to each one, these reputations do not and should not wholly define the individuals a part of each organization.

No one can control what others think of them, but they can control how they carry themselves with grace.