I'm not a normal person. Most people think about their wedding. They dreamed of what kind dress or tuxedo they should wear, wedding rings, and what kind of music is going to play during reception and after exchanging vows. While I want a nice wedding, I already have plans for a different occasion: my funeral.
I know what you are all thinking. No, I am not writing an article on my suicide. However, a thought has always floated around in my mind: how am I going to die. I don't think about seeing myself getting stabbed or anything too graphic for any child reading this. I have been to funerals for family members, family's friend, and my cat (though that did not involve any formal attires and expensive coffin to put him in).
I have watched every movie with scenes of laying a supporting character in a coffin and saying goodbye as I, the viewer, watch that dead character get buried. With every funeral I have witnessed, I have always wondered what kind of music people should at my funeral. Would they sing "Amazing Grace" to family and friends who were already crying? Something about God protecting me in heaven? Michael Jackson's "Gone Too Soon" or "Gloria"? As much as I love those songs, I wouldn't them to be played at my funeral.
In fact, I want slightly happy songs at my funeral.
Of course, I wouldn't have a friend sing Kesha's "Tick Tock" and a family member encourage everyone to turn up. Of course everyone will be sad when I pass away one day. But if I were to organize my event, I want to play music that may be sad songs but with uplifting messages. Then it got me to think: What if I make a playlist for my funeral just like I create a playlist for my wedding?
And here we are.
In case anyone finds this article in the future, here are the songs I picked out for the day I laid to rest so you don't have to.
Chance the Rapper "Finish Line/Drown"
I recently listened to this song because I just love Chance The Rapper since "Sunday Candy" and "Somewhere in Paradise." I debated between this song and "Somewhere In Paradise" because they both have a similar meaning of achieving something before one leaves this planet. I want my life to make an impact on someone, big or small. It's so uplifting that why not start my funeral right.
Prince "Purple Rain"
OK, so this may or may not have been influenced by my reaction to the legendary Prince's untimely death. It's no "Nothing Compares 2 U" or "Diamonds and Pearls" (Gosh, I love that song), but "Purple Rain" gives a moment. A moment to reflect on my mistakes and flaws but at the end of the day I manage to smile. Prince's master piece of a song is me lyrically. Hey, when I die and meet Prince up in the sky, might as well have somebody play "Purple Rain."
Rent Cast "Seasons of Love"
Sure, this song is not a "Hamilton" song or remotely related to any Lin-Manuel Miranda's music in theater. However, it does brings the message of how fast life is, how short it is. This song brings me back memories in my middle school band room, cramped with chairs and people I barely knew. When my choir teacher started playing "Seasons of Love" on her piano, I cried internally. Plus "Glee" sang this on their show in honor of one of their cast members, Cory Monteith (again, this may or may not have influenced my choice). I cried from that, too. What I'm trying to say is, "Seasons of Love" just brings happy and bittersweet memory of being in choir with my friends.
Younha "Run" (Subsonic Version)
I just want an excuse to add a K-Pop song that, not only it will make everyone cry but also makes everyone smile and say, "Of course she would add that." Please—it's me we're talking about here!
Todrick Hall "Home"
I would like to imagine myself going to the skies and reuniting with my parents, my brother (none of them are dead yet), and cat (he is, though) waiting for me as this song plays or whomever sings this track beside my coffin. I want to end the whole moment with something that makes my soul mine.
When I enter the after life, I will be welcomed by my family, who has continuously watched me succeed from above. "Home" will pull so many heartstrings with a message that hits close to every including myself. And I will cry happy tears when I'm reunited with my family and friends above saying, "Welcome Home."
I know it's hard to read about someone making a playlist specifically for my funeral when I have no idea when or how I will die. As someone who has faced depression and sometimes thinks about how I'll pass away, this soothes me. It reminds me of all happy, sad, successful and beautiful memories I have, with family, friends and people I love, throughout my time here so far. It's not easy thinking or talking about death this way. Nobody wants to die all of a sudden. I get scared of the thought that the the grim reaper might decide to end my life tomorrow, next week, next month, or whenever they feel like taking me to the After Life. Even if they did, I want to look back to this life and think:
I have made an impact.
I smiled without forcing myself to. People I have met throughout the years welcomed me with open arms and taught me numerous things on friendship and standing up for myself.
Making this playlist really taught how much I participate in life. These songs made me sing along. They made me cry. They made me love life all over again.
Of course, you don't have to create a playlist only for your funeral. I don't encourage you to. However, maybe this playlist and each song's message will help you appreciate life and how much you have impacted many people's lives.
If someone were to obtain this article and use these songs, they better. Just kidding, but I do wish my playlist will be used when I am laid to rest (hopefully indoors). These songs represent my life and how much value it holds for me and everyone around me. My funeral playlist gets me excited for what's next for me. Death is scary, but my life is outshining it, making it less scary than it is.
So on the next "Seasons of Love," on a "Purple Rain"-y day, I will "Run" and see you at the "Finish Line" right next to my "Home."