Heartbreak. Something most people on the planet have excruciatingly experienced. Most of the time from the ailment of love. Whether it be because of a love that lost its spark or a love full of lies, most humans can relate. The feeling of your heart sinking in your chest as you stumble upon something you wish you never saw or the words "I just don't think this is right anymore," come from your significant's mouth. Heartache can be a real bitch. Grab a box of tissues and get ready to sulk in some heart-wrenching ballads to get you right in the feels.
1. Heartease by TOTEM
"What a fool to think that we could be
Friends and lovers together, happily"
"We can still be friends," Often the most detrimental sentence said during a breakup exchange. Relationships often end with one side more attached than the other. Often leaving one person with a bigger gaping hole in their chest. They say time heals all, but what happens when you see that person for the first time since they walked away? It can feel like salt being rubbed into your wound. No matter what side you are on in the break, give this a listen. Give your heart ease in walking away.
2. Somebody Else by The 1975
"Our love has gone cold
you're intertwining your soul with somebody else."
It's been months, but you still have your ex on all social media. You occasionally find yourself on their profile just checking on them. You type in their name and immediately regret pressing the search bar. The first picture you see makes your heart feel as if it has imploded in your chest. They are with someone else now. You know it was best for you two to part ways, but knowing that someone else is learning the parts of their soul...breaks you a little. Someone else has replaced the spot you once held. Unfollow them on social media and vibe to The 1975 while doing so. I promise it's for the best.
3. River Of Tears by Alessia Cara
"I realize that sometimes love brings your flowers
Then it builds you coffins"
Moving on is hard regardless of the situation. Often we find ourselves finding pieces of that person everywhere we are. The park you walked through every day together, the smell of their coffee order, the jacket they left in your car. Sometimes it takes time to finally reach that point where you don't feel a constant reminder of their being. Love has the ability to make us feel on top of the world, but also like our world is crumbling. You have to be able to let yourself break down and feel the hurt to be able to build yourself a bridge. Embrace your tears, but become stronger from them as Alessia says.
4. Dangerously by Charlie Puth
"Knew we would crash at the speed that we were going
Didn’t care if the explosion ruined me"
Far too often do we fall into the trap of infatuation. Infatuation then turning into legitimate feelings. With all this comes the black hole of love which sucks you in quickly and dangerously. When you are usually the one to hold the power in the relationship, this can come as a feeling of desperation for that person as your attachment grows quite faster than theirs. Slowly, feeling that person losing interest in what once was. Knowing that at this rate you were destined to crash, you keep falling deeper until you hit the wall you've seen coming the entire time. You didn't care because the high was so much better than the low.
5. Capsize by FRENSHIP ft. Emily Warren
"Up at night I'm awake cause it haunts me
That I never got to say what I wanted"
You're sitting in your living room late night with a bottle of Moscato and find yourself thinking about all the words that were let unsaid. You broke up last Monday. Every day you've been thinking about all the times you should have said how you felt. It keeps you awake at night, replaying the moments over and over again. You keep saying that you're fine, but inside you know that it feels as if everyday your chest is getting heavier. The weight of the regret pulling you deeper in. You sit with your wine glass in your right hand and your phone in your left. Listen to this song by FRENSHIP and make the move to either capsize or get pulled to the bottom. Your move.
I hope that this list brings some sort of resonance that you are not alone in what you are feeling. As well as the fact that other people have been through what you have been through and came out alive.
Sometimes we have to love the wrong way to learn the right.
