I know divorce is not ideal and no one ever wants to go through it or have to put our kids through it. It's never ideal, but let me give you some insight. I hate the term "broken home" because my home isn't broken and never really was. If anything it was fixed in order to provide the best for me and my younger sibling. I am believer that I am my own home and home is made up of those that you love and who love you back. My situation may have broke my heart for a little, however it never broke me. Though, I was angry for such a long time. I wrote a lot of angry posts on Facebook, and was lashing out at everyone out of frustration. Frustration for not being able to understand why. It took a while, but I soon realized that sometimes moms and dads just fall out of love.
I may never truly understand how my parents got to that point. There will always be certain things that I will have to keep from my younger sibling. Despite this though sometimes two homes are better than one. This is something that you can only understand when you love someone more than you love your pride. I am blessed that my parents were able to put aside their pride and decide that raising me and my sibling in two homes that were filled with love was better than raising with in one home filled with anger, and fighting. There is not one parent to blame in this situation. They still love me unconditionally, and they still care for each other in a different way. Their situation has taught me a lot about how to love others, even after they have caused you to hurt. Their choice to love themselves first taught me to do the same.
I realized through all of this that sometimes the best intentions are not enough to fix everything that is broken. Trust me, I understand that so many of us what that everlasting kind of love. No one ever wants to put their kids through something like divorce, but sometimes life happens and you can't control or change the outcome of it. When it comes to a situation like divorce I truly believe that you have to learn how to make the best decision for yourself even if it's hard.
Of course you never want your kids having to decide whose home they have to go for the holidays or having to make any type of decision, such as that one. If I am being honest, divorce has taught me to stand up for what I want. I have learned how to think about all of my options and also how to say no when I genuinely do not want to do something.
Divorce changed me in so many ways and it was all for the best. I have seen so many social media posts about divorce and how awful it must be for the kid. Again, it is not an ideal situation, but if you ask any kid who experienced it many would say they wouldn't change what occurred. Some of us get lucky enough for our parents to finally meet the right person for them, then us having an extra person to love and who loves us. Maybe this doesn't make a lot sense to some people right now, but believe me when I tell you that you'll understand this when you love someone.
From the girl whose home was never broken.
