If you've been on Twitter recently, you've seen the overused tweet beginning with "It's 15 years from now..." followed by something that is probably unrealistic, unobtainable, or just corny.
This is just one example of the tweets we all see, stuffing false expectations down our throats. Surely enough, though, these are becoming the standards to which our romantic lives are being held to.
Every one of these tweets goes into specific detail about the car you will own, the kind of man you will marry, the sport your child will play, or the type of relationship you will be in. Next to the tweet, you can see that millions of people retweeted it, but do they really want the same exact thing?
Where is the originality?
I, along with those who are combating the "15 years from now" madness with dramatically false realities like becoming "The Incredibles" or a character in "High School Musical," wonder where the fun is in having the same hopes and desires as a million other people.
Instead of looking to Twitter to tell you what you want, look to yourself and your values. Your future may not involve sporting events every weekend with your three children and your tall, blonde and dreamy husband. Maybe it will be totally different, and maybe you like that idea. You'll never know if you don't stop basing your expectations off of the ones that are floating around Twitter.
Social media has become such a foundation for love advice that when someone gets less than what they are reading, they assume that it's wrong. In reality, we can't all afford to live the lives that are dreamt about online. Instead of feeling like you're getting less than you deserve, accept that you probably won't get a steady income fresh out of high school, or a house, or the perfect boyfriend. You probably won't have the perfect marriage that twitter lays out for you, but you can create your own kind of perfect, and I promise that you will appreciate it much more.
Accept that good things take time and a lot of mistakes in between, and if he doesn't end up being the hot third base coach to your child's baseball team, or always have home cooked meals waiting upon your arrival, it is probably going to be okay.
Stop letting society tell you what to look forward to later in life, and stop beating yourself up if you aren't quite there yet, or are living a life that is less than "perfect."
Thrive off of being different.
Picture this: it's 15 years from now, you're doing whatever you want to be doing, with whoever you want to be doing that with, and you never changed your values to match anyone else's. You're living your kind of life.
Finally - something obtainable.
