Oh, 2016 and "relationships"...What does that even mean?
No, I'm serious. Try to explain to someone what "we're talking" means and not feel stupid or played. Try to feel okay with the idea of "hook-ups" (formally known as one-night stands) and never speaking to the person you just shared an intimate moment with again. Try to plan a date with someone where you don't go back and forth saying, "I'm down for whatever" and end up watching a movie at someone's house: FYI, that's not a true date.
What happened to asking someone to be your girlfriend or boyfriend? When did guys stop opening doors for girls and buying them flowers? When did waiting to share intimate moments with people become unexpected? When has someone ever had a Friends with Benefits (FWB) and not caught feelings or felt completely emotionally stable with the situation? When did girls become so terrified to talk to guys first and then get mad that he didn't talk to them? Like no duh... he can't read your mind so if you wanna talk to him just say, "hi."
When did we lose sight of what really matters?
We all sit around saying we want to get married, have kids, find that person to adventure through life with. Well, hate to break it to you, but the chances of finding them while black out on Fireball in a Townhouse party is slim to none. People say they want romance, respect and something serious and then wear bandeaus as shirts and sleep with someone within a few hours (if not minutes) of meeting them.
Yes, you're in college: experiment and have fun but don't disrespect yourself and make regrettable choices in the process. Join clubs, be a part of an intramural team, volunteer, get a job, talk to people in class, smile at strangers in the dining hall and at the gym: there are dozens of ways to make new friends that share like interests outside of tight clothing and vodka shots.
Good guys and good girls are out there, and so are good and healthy relationships. However, they take work, communication and patience: things a lot of people in the millennial generation aren't good at or like to practice.
Now, I'm not some relationship guru by any means. I've had my heart broken and I've broken hearts. I've had missteps in communication, problems with patience and argued with significant others: but every mistake and stumble is a lesson learned. All I'm wondering is: what happened to the romance? And can we please bring it back?
Put down the Fireball, Smirnoff, and cell-phones. Pick up some flowers, take-out food and have face to face conversations before we forget what it's like to talk to people without a screen between us.
