"You look sick."
"Eat a cheeseburger."
"You are so lucky."
"You have it so easy. You can eat whatever you want and not gain a pound."
"Here, take some of my fat."
"How could you possibly be self conscious?"
When I hear these things, I do not know how to react; I feel very uncomfortable. These phrases do not come off as a compliment to me. In today's society, many women in their young adult years simply want to feel that they have worth, that they are good enough. These phrases emphasize the constant manipulation that society puts on women to attain the "perfect figure".
I am fairly thin and I have been all my life. The genes I received from my dad's side of the family gave me a fast metabolism. Yes, maybe my metabolism is slightly faster than others. Does that mean I am better than anyone? No. Does that mean I want anyone to feel that they are beneath me? No.
Women in our generation cannot win. We are either too fat or too skinny. I can tell you first hand that skinny shaming is so real and such an issue that many people do not realize is a problem.
It is so important to mention that skinny women have insecurities, just the same as anyone else. Being thin does not automatically make me confident in any respect. Everyone has parts of themselves that they feel that they want to improve on. Skinny shaming puts thin women right back at square one.
I do not want to feel ashamed of my body. We need to stop defining a "real woman" as one that has curves. Tall skinny girls are not imaginary. All women are real women.
Many larger women love their curves, so why can't I love my body just the same?
Why is telling me I need to gain weight any different than me telling you to lose weight?
Why is it okay for you to call me anorexic but horrible for me to call you curvy?
Many people don't realize when they say it, but it hurts just the same.
Curvy women are just as beautiful as thin women. Females need to stick together. We do not need to put one body type down to lift another up. We live in a society where women are still not seen as completely equal to men, let's not carry this inequality to each other too. Remember, we are all on the same team.
So no, I am not sick. No, I do not want to eat another cheeseburger, and no, I definitely do not have it easy.
Go home and look in the mirror and smile. Give recognition to the perfectly crafted body that God gave you. Every fiber of your being is individually made for you. He made you unique to everyone else. Love yourself.
