I want to pass along a piece of wisdom given to me by my favorite high school teacher several years ago to all my fellow "single" young ladies. "There is no such thing as being single." I love this statement because we tend to look at being single as a very defining term that makes up who we are. You are either in a relationship or you're not, and society likes to make us think that there's something we're doing wrong if we haven't been or aren't in a relationship by a certain point in our lives. This kind of pressure causes girls (and guys) to enter all sorts of relationships out of fear and insecurity, especially in college when everyone is getting engaged or married and we're looking around asking ourselves what we're doing wrong. I'm here to tell you that having a boyfriend, fiancé, or husband does not make you more or less whole or more or less of a woman than your friend who's been in a relationship for three years or your friend who's getting married next spring. Don't get me wrong- I get the temptation there. It can be disheartening when you are the "single" girl in your group of friends. Nobody likes feeling left out. Nobody likes wondering if they're going to be "alone" forever. That's just it, though. You're never"single,""alone," whatever. Those are terms society has placed on us but they aren't accurate. Do you have friends? You aren't single. Do you have family? You aren't single. Do you have people who love and care about you? You aren't single. Being "single" implies you are out there in this world alone. That is so far from truth. So you've been out of a relationship for months, maybe even years. Maybe you've never had a boyfriend and you're in or about to graduate college? In all those years, I want you to take comfort in the fact that not once were you ever "single". Not once were you ever "alone". You don't need another person to make you whole. You need an understanding of your individual worth in the eyes of yourself and those who cherish you for all that you are. You have so much to offer this world. Go out there fearlessly and take it by storm. You are already whole. You are already enough. You are not "single". You are whoever you choose to be.