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An Open Letter To The Single Girl Who Feels Like She's Not Good Enough

News flash: You are.

Kristin Madaj

Mar 07, 2019

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Kristin Madaj

Dear single girls,

If you're reading this, pay close attention.

Chances are, at some point in your life, no matter who you are, you've felt like you were not good enough. Not good enough for something, someone, or maybe even for yourself. And if you're a single girl like me, you've probably been feeling that way for a while now. But I'm here to tell you something important: you ARE good enough. You're better than good enough. You are amazing. And you're kicking butt at this whole "life" thing, all on your own.

Trust me, I know how hard it is to feel lonely and lost. You feel like no matter what you do, it will never be enough for anyone. You might feel unappreciated or unwanted, sad and directionless. It's even worse when most of your friends are in relationships or seeing someone.

But guess what? You have all the freedom! Just think about it. You can go anywhere, do anything, without having to worry about how your significant other will feel. You could hop on a plane tomorrow without a care in the world, dance with strangers, flirt with cute guys in your classes, or go on dating sites and swipe to your heart's content. I promise you'll miss them someday.

It seems easy to say all of that now, but living it can be much harder. I was talking today with my friend Andrea about how I think I just have a "relationship" mentality, meaning I'm just someone who is used to and comfortable being in a committed relationship rather than just hopping around from person to person. Because of this, it takes a huge toll on me when someone I'm talking to decides they don't want anything serious or decides they just want to keep things "casual." There's nothing wrong with this, or you if you find yourself feeling this way.

For me, I just feel like I don't want to waste my time on someone who doesn't really see me in their future or want to get to know me. You might also feel the opposite, not wanting to commit to one person or being fearful of it. There's nothing wrong with that either. You will find the person that makes your heart sing and dissolve all your worries and anxieties about love.

There are probably times when you are convinced there will never be anyone right for you and that you just won't cut it for anyone. I feel like that pretty much every day, and I'm sure my roommates and family are tired of hearing me complain about it. I just have to be positive and remind myself that my person is out there and that they will come around when the time is right.

It can definitely be hard and painstaking to wait for it, and having a big heart will get you hurt more times than one, but you just have to believe that it will all be worth it. Enjoy the single life while you can ladies, with the right attitude and a good head on your shoulders you can make it one of your many amazing adventures, and you can do it all on your own.

Sincerely,

A fellow single girl.

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