I am single, and I am all right with it. Sometimes, being single is seen as something sad or viewed merely as a transitive state between ending one relationship and being in another. To some, being single is not just being unattached. It is single and seeking, an unfulfilled state of being plagued by yearning; but what if you aren't looking for a partner? I personally see being single as a blessing and an opportunity. It is a chance to grow as an individual and build up the other important aspects of my life.
Being single allows me my independence.
When I make decisions, I do not have to factor in someone else's needs and wants. Even in small matters, that is freeing. I control how I use my time. I do not have to leave time for the maintenance of a committed relationship. My obligations are less, and I can do as I please. I take this time to throw myself into my hobbies and activities, learning new skills and taking on new opportunities that interest me. I have the freedom to just do what I want when I want.
Being single is an opportunity to address my faults. I admit I have many. I can be stubborn, argumentative, and lazy at times, and that's just the tip of the iceberg. It wouldn't be responsible or fair to bring someone else into the equation when I can't always address my own emotional needs or work on my character flaws. I need to build myself up, not have someone attempt to do so on my behalf. I would be neglecting myself, my partner, or both of us. While I'm not committed to another, I can be committed to myself. I can mature emotionally and spiritually, rooting myself in my faith and my confidence, undistracted by another.
Being single allows me to invest in my other relationships, familial, platonic, etc. Sometimes, these relationships get put on the backburner as energy and attention is diverted towards building up and maintaining a romantic relationship. However, I see non-romantic relationships just as and, sometimes, even more important than romantic ones. My true friends are my support system. They would have been with me longer than any partner would, and if things fell apart in a romantic relationship, they are who I know I can depend on. My family and my friends keep me grounded, and they deserve just as much investment. It would only benefit me to strengthen those bonds.
Disregarding all the above, being single is just being single. It is being yourself. No more, no less. It doesn't mean you are undesirable or that you must be taking a break or actively searching. I choose not to be defined by my relationship status nor do I wish to be judged by it. There is an expectation that everyone will date and, often, get married, and I do see myself getting married in the future. I'm just not worrying about it right now, and I'm not worried about finding a romantic partner either. If it happens, it happens. I am not inclined to seek it out. For now, I am content in just taking my days as they come and investing in myself. I am living my life, and I will face whatever comes when it comes.
Being single isn't better than being in a relationship nor is the opposite true. It's just what you are, and you can do with it as you wish, whether wishing to escape it or embrace it.
