Valentine's Day is coming up and for those of you who are single, it might be because you're dating your roommate without even realizing it. Now you may just classify them as your roommate, but if you're close with them they could potentially be your new bae. They're everything a significant other could be. You live with them, you spend all your time with them, you compliment each other, and they're always there for you. Even though they are just your friend, they still act like your significant other.
Your roommate is one of the only constants in your life. You probably don't realize how much you need them and what they actually mean to you. I'm constantly with my roommate and people that don't know us would probably assume we are dating. That's just the way we are. So if you're like us and are "dating" your roommate these are things you'll completely understand.
No awkwardness
It might have been awkward when you first started living together, but you're probably past that now. You've skipped the awkward first date and getting to know each other phase that usually occurs in the dating world. You live with each other. They know that you talk in your sleep and you know they love their screamo music. Nothing is awkward between you two anymore.
You're crazy together
You always need someone to be crazy with. Late nights studying or weekend shenanigans means you're both going to go mental. All you need in life is for someone to be crazy with and accept your crazy. People always want their boyfriends or girlfriends to accept their crazy, roommates are perfect for that.
You cuddle with them
Sometimes you just need human contact, so you cuddle up with your roommate. There are no expectations or consequences, it's just cuddling. You could even crawl into bed with them. I'm assuming other people do that, but it just might be my roommate and me.
No boundaries
You live together, weird stuff is bound to happen. You might be at the point where you still change in the bathroom or you might just change right in front of your roommate. Maybe you've even seen your roommate naked. Accidents happen. It could reach the point that you can touch each other in otherwise inappropriate ways and it's completely normal. There are no boundaries between some roommates.
You get jealous
Sometimes you forget your roommate has other friends that they spend time with. You want to monopolize your roommate's time, but you get jealous when they spend time with other people. You can't have them all the time. It's just like when a significant other is with another person, you get irrationally jealous. It's basically the same thing.
You act like a married couple
You finish each other's sentences. You know what the other is thinking. It's like you've known each other for years when you might have only known each other for a few months. You fight like a married couple, screaming and insulting each other. But the fight ends and eventually, you go back to loving each other again.
They truly understand you![]()
Because you spend so much time together they understand your habits and nonsense English. They know the things you like and what you don't like. When you're having a bad day they know exactly how to cheer you up. They know exactly what you need when it comes to outfit choices. They probably know you better than you know yourself.
You become a mom
You're away from your family and you need someone to look after you. If you didn't know, it ends up being your roommate. When you're out late, they'll call to make sure you're okay and on your way home. You make sure they're eating enough and getting enough sleep. You only worry that much about someone when you truly care about them.
They're always there for you
When you share a room, you kind of have to make sure your roommate is okay. So when you're having a bad day, they're there for you. They'll give you ice cream and chocolate to make you feel better. They're always there to hold you when you cry or to offer advice for your problems. Sometimes they're all you need in a situation.
Unconditional love
Even through the fighting, insults, and craziness, they're always there. They put up with your mood swings and crazy antics. Despite everything, they love you unconditionally and that's all that matters.
So if you're single this Valentine's Day, go out with your roommate. They're the next best thing to an actual boyfriend or girlfriend. You can make your relationship stronger in the process and they'll know how much you actually appreciate them.
Shout-out to my roommate for inspiring this.