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Signs Of A Man Without Confidence

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Signs Of A Man Without Confidence
Derrick sobers

Signs you are a man without confidence:


1. You are scared to introduce yourself to strangers.

This may come in many forms but the most frequent are these two:

- Being afraid to introduce yourself to women directly. When you see a woman that has caught your interest, you never (without getting pushed) go over and say hi to strike up a conversation. This is a lack of confidence. A lot of men try to weasel out of “manning up” by trying to get the bartender to send the lady a drink or try to get his or her friends to talk to her on his behalf. Bottom line, if you prefer to use some indirect or third party to get her attention, you're too scared to have her anyway. Real men go after the things they want, including who they want.

- You are anti-social when you are around a group of people you don't know. For example, you go to your girlfriend's work party where you don't know anyone, and you just sit there. You say hi if someone else says hi but you don't engage into actual conversation with anyone. The excuse "I don't know anyone" or "I have nothing to talk about" is exactly that, an excuse. An excuse that you are scared to be outgoing and open minded.

2. You are scared to be embarrassed.


This fear is exposed when it comes to a person trying something new or the reluctance to participate in things they know they are not good at. For example, something that normally puts a man's confidence to the test is dancing. The willingness to venture outside your comfort zone even though you know a couple of people are going to have a few laughs at you is a major staple of confidence.

Remember … your lady having a good time > how cool you look to strangers.

A more common example (for men and women) is being scared to go to the gym because they feel out of place. Confident people go to the gym and give it their all for their own personal benefits, they don’t care who is watching. It comes down to knowing who you are and accepting that you are good at some things and not so good at others. Always being up to do anything even though you might be scared or embarrassed are major points in the confidence area.

3. You never speak up.


When it comes to speaking up, there is a line between confronting someone and being disrespectful to someone. Confronting someone who is being rude without reason ( real men stick up for others) in an assertive, yet respectful manner is honorable. Being overly aggressive over an accident or miscommunication to stroke your ego is an obvious insecurity. This also applies at home. Being able to discuss issues in a respectful, nurturing way and not to get aggressive, defensive, or avoidant is a great sign that you are able to carry yourself like a true man.The final aspect of "speaking up" is a very simple, yet overlooked act. The ability to make a decision. Most frequently seen as the "Where should we go eat" conversation which goes back and forth too long. if someone asks you to make a choice, just make a damn choice.

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