A couple of weeks ago I explained to my parents what cat-fishing is. It is a concept unheard of in older generations. Probably because of the rapid increase in technology making cat-fishing more possible.
If you, like my parents, do not know what cat-fishing is. I'll sum it up for you. It is impersonating someone else online. Like if I claimed to be Miley Cyrus on Facebook. Then using your fake identity to chat with other online users.
Unfortunately, I have seen it happen to people who are close to me. They actually believe this gorgeous mystery cybergirl from Ukraine is in love with them and would be with them if only they could afford the plane ticket. $2000 later, someone is left both broke and heartbroken. It is so sad to think that someone you have feelings for uses you. Unfortunately, it happens all the time online. Many times cat-fishing is made possible because they only message each other online without any facial interaction.
I am a big fan of romantic comedies and I love when the underdog comes out on top, but I am not exactly sure I like the message behind the new movie "Sierra Burgess Is A Loser." She essentially cat-fishes a guy she really likes because he texts her believing she is the most popular girl in school. They develop a relationship through texting and long phone calls. Then he goes on a date with the girl he thinks he is texting.
The whole storyline involves a lot of manipulation of this poor guy, who honestly is excited about the prospects of a new relationship and has no idea who is actually sending him the messages. I don't know about you but if someone lied about who they were for weeks I don't think it would end with me whisking them away to homecoming.
We all want a happy ending, but this one doesn't seem like it was deserved.
Seriously dude, she just cat-fished you and you now want her to be your girlfriend. Not likely. All is not well that ends well if there is no plausible explanation for the outcome.
Trust is the foundation for a healthy relationship. But this movie suggests that you can have a relationship with the hot popular football player if you lie to him about who you are first. Sierra also tricks her crush Jamey into kissing her when he believes he is kissing someone else. How could that even be remotely considered okay? Can you imagine what would have happened if he opened his eyes? It is just downright creepy.
In today's society finding a significant other online is common. It seems like most of the people I know who are dating someone met them on a dating app. I am not sure about you, but I am not fond of this new system. Nothing beats face-to-face time interaction. You can never really know a person until you have one-on-one conversations. Nonverbal communication is being completely left out of the picture here.
I really wanted to like the film, but it got big thumbs down for me. The acting is great, but that is greatly diminished because the storyline encourages ideas that have questioning moral.
This movie is not a true example of how healthy relationships begin. Please, let's end the catfishing, put down our phones, and start making real connections with people outside of cyberspace.