Many people are stunned when they hear that I have no friends. Granted this is a smidge of a lie, but at the same time it is not. I guess by this statement, I first have to define what consists of having "no friends". Don't get me wrong, I do have some people that I hangout with from time-to-time. I am not stating that I am unsocial as I have a boyfriend, active volunteer life, and participate in a multitude of art shows. I am just trying to explain how not everyone fits into today's expectations of "the clique".
On college campuses nationwide, there appears to be this mentality among students that successful students have a small group, or clique, of friends. One sees these types of groups all over Facebook. They are out having dinner, holding a study group, or enjoying a cup of coffee. They chat about classes, personal lives, and the mysteries of the opposite sex. It's almost as if they form the newest Breakfast Club or Sex in the City group they mesh that well. However, not everyone fits in that kind of friend group. In fact, most people do not. Now yes, you will probably find "your people" eventually, however most often it is quite rare for every single person to belong to a Three Musketeers type of group.
With this being said, we circle back to my original point. It's okay to have no friends. It's okay to study alone, it's okay to do personal projects, and it's okay to just ignore the world and read a book. It is stunning to me that people are outcasted for being by themselves. It is also ironic, seeing as they are being left alone for wanting to be left alone. Though why is wanting to spend some quality time with oneself considered a bad thing?
I myself, prefer to be alone than with a huge group of friends. I guess you could say that my group consistes of my cat and I. Her name is Sprinkles.
Sprinkles and I enjoy doing homework, painting canvas, and watching my latest Amazon Prime binge (this month, Sex in the City). We don't need a big group to have fun, and that is the point I am trying to make. Humans, as a species, do need some interaction in order to survive. Though overall, they do not need constant interaction.Now yes, some people need that. However, some do not. It is not anyone's place to force "being social" down someone's throat just because that is what everyone else is doing. So if you're an introvert, hold that flag high. Do what makes you happy. Smile, laugh, and don't regret any moment of it. Remember that this is your life. Not the life where you are forced to do things you don't want to do at all.
