As a young woman in college, people, friends, and acquaintances have always asked me if I have, had, or will ever have a boyfriend. This occurrence has been recently happening in the past few weeks so I feel as though this should be written about, especially since no one talks about the young women and girls nowadays who are single, let alone who have never been in a relationship. Well hear me roar everyone, let it be known that I, this 19-year-old young woman, has never been in a relationship, kissed anyone, or been in love before. Sure I've liked guys before and I guess you could say I've "fallen head over heels" too, but that was like once.
Ladies who are in my situation, please take this seriously because you are not alone. Matter of fact, it's not a situation because in actuality, it's a blessing. I've read so many articles on how other young women my age and even older have never had boyfriends or been in relationships before, and talk about the importance of why it's okay to wait. I wanted to specifically write this article in tribute to all single ladies out there in the world because you do not have to be in a relationship. Don't ever let anyone make you feel like it is an obligation!
Friends, family, and acquaintances have always asked and told me "When are you going to get a boyfriend?", "What's your sexuality?", "Oh, you're not getting any older", "Change your top, you're not going to catch a man by wearing that". Why does that even matter? I shouldn't have to catch a man and neither should all you single ladies reading this article. Men catch US, and then on top of that, your sexuality shouldn't matter to anyone other than yourself!
If you like women, men, or both, go for it and don't be afraid. Be your own person. Focus on loving yourself in order to love someone else. Dress however you please and don't ever change yourself for no one ever! Get older and live life, discover who you truly are, get the career you've always dreamed of, and accomplish the goals and milestones you desire to reach in order to be successful.
There's not a day that goes by where I don't wonder what it would be like to be in a relationship. Except, I can't help but think of how much I would rather wait for the "one" who truly deserves my compassionate heart. I believe that we as single ladies should wait for the one who ultimately has our best interests and intentions at heart. It may get lonely and suck sometimes, but overall it's worth it. As time passes by, you're going to know what you don't want when it comes to love by all of the other relationships you get to see within your life, whether they be from friends or family.
Most of all, don't ever, and I mean ever, let anyone tell you that "you'll understand one day when you have a boyfriend/girlfriend" or "you don't understand because you don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend". That is unacceptable and if someone were to ever say that to you no matter who they are, they are not a genuine person you should have in your life. There's no excuse for anyone to say that, because you know what it's like to be in love but instead choose to wait for the right time to be in a dedicated relationship.
Ladies who may or may not be single, I encourage and entice you to ask yourselves if you can wait for the right one. Wait for all the right reasons and not just because I'm writing this article and telling you to, but because of your own values and morals. Wait because it's something that YOU want to do and not because of influences in your own lives. Wait because you know that deep inside your heart it feels wholesome to deeply wait for that special person to come into your life.
Overall, ladies you are not alone and for anyone who feels like they are, please read this article. I know that it's mind boggling and unimaginable because it feels like you are in such a world where relationships are a "must," but it does not have to be that way at all. Stay independent, strong, confident, and wise so that you can continue to grow into the woman you most definitely, unapologetically, magnificently, and beautifully should be.
