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Why You Shouldn't Rely On A Boy To Control Your Future

Think of your future for yourself before you think of a future with someone else.

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When you are little girl you dream to be swooped away by your prince and live happily ever after. You believed that when you get married that sets your future. You are set on for the rest of your life to be looking for boy that will be the density to your future. You have dreams of your own of course, maybe being a nurse, teacher, doctor, or lawyer. But in the back of your little girl head you know your real dream is to find your dream boy.

But, It is time to stop thinking about the future of just being married to the perfect guy. It is time to control your own future and let the boy and marriage follow behind the life you deserve and make for yourself. You should not rely on a boy to create your whole future. Your future should be what you make it out to be for yourself. Your future will never be what you want it to be unless you have your goals and dreams for yourself that always come first. You need to accomplish your goals and have the career for yourself. Your future cannot be about finding a boy because then you might loose the future that you deserve. He can't give you everything you need to make your future how you want it to be.You are your own destiny.

The man of dreams will come one day when you have a future for yourself. The man of your dreams will have a future also, and both of your futures will align together to make the future you both were dreaming of. You both will come together because of the goals and accomplishments you both have already made. Now that is what the future should be like for you.

Girls don’t rely on a boy to swoop you off your feet and that be your only density. Be your own prince to your life for a while. Be the girl that has both, her future for herself and her future with her husband. Be the nurse, teacher, doctor, or lawyer. Think of your future for yourself before you think of a future with someone else. I don’t think you will ever truly be satisfied with your life until you have a plan for self and do things for your self. You deserve a bright future for yourself that will lead you to your dream boy. He will wait and he will always be there. Don’t spend your time thinking of your future that is only resolved around a boy. Relationships and Marriages go wrong all the time when you least expect it. Your future will survive this if you don’t let a boy control your future. You should want to be able to stand alone when you least expect it. The only person you can 100% rely on is yourself. So my advice to you is please accomplish your goals and dreams for your future for yourself. You will always live happily ever after if you do.

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