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Why You Should Never Be A Second Choice

To Him, you will always be first choice.

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Far too often, we women allow men to make us their second choice. We fail to remember our value and worth because we believe the lies that we are second best, unimportant and not good enough. We allow men to basically walk in and out of our lives at their convenience because we forget that we are the prize. We should not be chasing after them, hoping and praying they will talk to us again or take us on another date. Why? Because we are the prize.

How do I know this? The Bible tells us in Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” It doesn’t say, “She who finds a husband finds what is good…” If you find yourself being the one who is doing the majority of the pursuing in a relationship, stop. I can promise you God does not intend for you to be with a man who is not pursuing you the way He pursues you. We will always be God’s first choice, and to Him, we are very special. We have to remember that God thinks highly of us and we should not settle for a man who does not think the same things.

God says we are precious and honored.

Isaiah 43:4 tells us we are precious and honored in his sight. As believers in Jesus, we have set ourselves apart. We are redeemed, and He finds us honorable because of the decision we made. We, true believers, are also his treasured possession according to Exodus 19:5 and to Deuteronomy 7:6, “For you are a people holy to the Lord your God. The Lord your God has chosen you out of all the peoples on the face of the earth to be his people, his treasured possession.” A man should also think these things about us.

God says we are his heir/co-heir/princess.

Romans 8:17 states, “If we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.” We are children of God by our faith in Him, and by God’s grace, He adopts us into His family as His children. We are His heirs/co-heirs, which means we women are His princesses. Do men who pursue a princess make her their second choice? No, because she is a princess, and they want her and only her. We may not wear a tangible crown or have the worldly title of “princess,” but that does not mean we aren’t one. Does God make us a second choice? No, so why should we allow a man to make us a second choice? We are princesses and should be recognized as one.

God says we are wonderfully made.

Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” This verse also tells us how God values us. He created us and made each individual on this Earth special. We are all unique, special and wonderfully made. I promise there is no one like you. You are special, you are wonderfully made. When a man sees you how God sees you and realizes you are special and wonderfully made, you will then be his first choice.

God calls us beloved.

Countless times in the Bible we are called “beloved,” which means dearly loved. 1 John 4:7-8 says, “Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” We are loved so much by God. We are also called by God to love others. Love should be the kind of love described in scripture. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 explains what love is, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” A man who truly loves you will do his best to love you in this way. I say "do his best’ because as a human, he will fail and we cannot expect perfection.

Ladies, do not settle as a second choice. Wait for a man who will love you like God and Jesus loves you. Wait for a man who thinks you are precious and honored. Wait for a man who thinks you are a princess. Wait for a man who thinks you are wonderfully made. You are the prize. He finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.


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